From the iron age to nearly the industrial age, blacksmiths prospered. Villagers needed plows, shovels, iron tires for wagons, nails and tools to build their homes, all of which the blacksmiths forged. They needed their horses and oxen shod and their tools repaired. Being a blacksmith was a sound professional choice. Yet despite flourishing for […]
When you connect with and experience your own feelings while, at the same time, taking in the feelings of the one you love, you are walking straight into the open heartspace of real romance. That’s where you find the special connections you make with one another, whether small and subtle or grand and brilliant. The […]
“Respect the site; do not impose your will on it.” –From The Winterthur Garden: Henry Francis du Pont\’s Romance with the Land, by Denise Magnani Visit the Winterthur Garden in the heart of the picturesque Brandywine Valley and the artistic vision of its creator cannot fail to impress—and inspire. Scion of Delaware\’s industrialist du Pont […]
Hot flashes vary in intensity for different women but they remain among the most talked about symptoms of menopause, mostly because they are so uncomfortable. About 80% of the women in America experience flashes (hot flushes that move through the body in a wave) and night sweats (waking up with wet pjs and bed sheets) […]
Our Two Lives In the 1952 novel “The Natural” by Bernard Malamud about a baseball prodigy whose career is sidetracked when he is shot by a sociopathic serial killer, later turned into a Robert Redford (drool) movie, one line rings true for all of us. It goes something like this: We get two lives, one […]
One of the most consistent responses I get from men and women was how much irritability, anger and sullen withdrawal was present in males particularly between the ages of 40 and 55. “It\’s like he\’s a different man,” one woman wrote to me. “He had always been kind, considerate and caring. Now he treats us […]
After 44 years helping men and women achieve more satisfying and joyful relationships, I’ve accumulated some helpful wisdom. I’ve written about the 25 Most Important Things about Men and 25 Most Important Things about Sex, Love, and Marriage. Here’s some wisdom about women, sex, and love. 25. “You never lose by loving. You lose by […]
Future Shock: The New Dis-Ease of Our Time I still have my original copy, though it\’s falling apart. Most pages are covered with little stars with underlines to remind me of important things to remember. It was a mind-blowing book for me (I must admit that even as a 60s activist in Berkeley, books were […]
As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been enlightening. I’d like to share some words of […]
My father tried to commit suicide when I was five years old. He recovered, but my life was never the same. I went to medical school, then graduate school. For the last 44 years I have specialized in helping men and the women who love them. I think I\’ve been trying, on some level, to […]
