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Signs of a Passionate Artist

January 1st, 2006

…by Suzanne Falter-Barnes A few years back, I had the great fortune to spend the day at the Vermont recording studio of a jazz musician named Chuck Eller. Chuck recorded my Discover Your Soul Purpose meditation CD, and offered to provide some background piano music as well. From the beginning, I knew the meditations needed some kind of scoring, but exactly what and how eluded me. There are no entries in the phone book for “Composer – Mystical, Healing, Background Stuff”. Furthermore, I had no idea how I was going to \’direct\’ such a musician. (“More... Read More

Valentine\’s Day, She loves Me, She loves …

January 1st, 2006

We were sitting around my girlfriend\’s kitchen table and of course, as “girl talk” goes, one thing lead to another. Being writers, we relate everything to “months” and what\’s going on in the “month.” We knew the next event in a writer\’s world was Valentine\’s Day. Inspired by this, and secretly looking for fodder, I said, “If you could do anything you wanted to do on Valentine\’s Day, just for this one day, what would it be?” I was expecting to hear them say things like “Oh I\’d sweep me and my hubby off to Barbados for a weekend filled... Read More

How to Avoid the “Vicky-D Iceberg”

January 1st, 2006

In “De-Mystifying Vicky-D\’s” in the October NABBW newsletter, you learned how the Vicky-D\’s\’ generational experiences, attitudes and values created their expectations today. However, generational values and attitudes are only part of the equation. As you might imagine, for Vicky-D\’s facing major life issues such as old age, declining health, death of a spouse and/or friends, fear of being destitute and homeless, fear of losing independence and control, or the fear of dependency – or not having anyone to depend on, this an extremely emotional time. Emotions... Read More

Embracing Possibility: Creating a New Year

January 1st, 2006

Now my best friend Susie would tell you, if she were with me today, that New Year\’s Resolutions just don\’t work. She doesn\’t make them. She doesn\’t believe in them. She\’s my personal New Year\’s Scrooge. And, to be fair, she has a point. If your Resolutions never move from a vague intention or an item on a list, they will indeed languish in the land of wishful thinking. There is a way, however to make them reality. And that involves a little ‘zen organizing\’ and some old-fashioned elbow grease. I\’d like to break the process down for you... Read More

Name Confusion

January 1st, 2006

I have known men to have names which generate confusion. One of the senior attorneys in my firm, a man named Leslie Stellman, has often been confused, sight unseen, for a woman. This means that when applying in 1968 to the Johns Hopkins University, he was informed that as a female, he was ineligible for admission. Only after he sent in a photo did the admissions people allow him entry into the university. Imbued with a passion for gender equality, he became an employment attorney and spent the past 30 years educating employers about the evils (not to mention the costs) of sex discrimination and... Read More

Shades of Grey

January 1st, 2006

A paperweight sits on my desk, etched in silver the message: Life isn\’t always black and white. It serves as a reminder there are few absolutes at work (or in life). Yet, it would be easier if there were; if good ideas from bad, trustworthy people from non-trustworthy, and right paths from the wrong ones could easily be discerned. I\’ve learned in twenty years in management that increasing one\’s perspective increases the grey, as words like always and never become obsolete for describing most situations and most people. But early in my career, I was convinced there were right... Read More

Living With Eternity in Mind

January 1st, 2006

“…Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 3:13-14 Every year at this time a lot of people make many promises. Some of the New Year\’s Resolutions I have heard (or made) are: “I am going to pray an hour each day.” “I intend to read the entire Bible!” “I will lose thirty pounds!” “I promise to be nice to everyone I meet.” By the end of January, the list looks more like this: “I am going to pray when I can.” “I intend to read... Read More

Dream Big, Dream With Love

January 1st, 2006

The celebration of the new year is the oldest of all continuing holidays. It was observed 4000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians and has continued, with only minor interruptions, into modern times. Anything with a history that long and enduring clearly has deep significance for the human psyche. Perhaps it\’s simply a celebration of being alive, having made it through another circle of the sun. But for many of us there is also the recognition of death and rebirth, a letting go of what has been and surrendering to what is yet to be. Philosophers make the distinction between “being”–that... Read More

Dealing With Your Depression – Column II

December 31st, 2005

In this SERIES of monthly COLUMNS Dr. Stephen will help you: • Find out more about your depressed mood • Name that tune: A description of depressive and mood disorders • Change your depressed mood through action • Decide if you need medication COLUMN TWO: NAME THAT TUNE: A DESCRIPTION OF DEPRESSIVE AND MOOD DISORDERS Depression has been called by many names over the span of human existence. “D” words win with the most entries…which seems only fair—Despondency Despair Disconsolate Dispirited Doleful Downbeat Downcast Downhearted Dejected Down... Read More

All I Want For Christmas Is…

December 1st, 2005

kay, that title may not be original, but my idea is. Hold on to your stocking stuffers\’ people cause I have a whopper of an idea for Christmas this year. I\’ve been giving this gift buying-running-to-the-mall-fighting-the-crowds-going-into-debt-and-cooking-for-the-multitudes thing, a lot of thought. What say this year we reverse the roles? Hmm? I mean, who says that kids should get all the neat toys and gifts under the tree, anyway? And what about the best candy always going in THEIR stockings? Exactly WHO made up these rules? I know I didn\’t. You? More than likely, it was someone... Read More