Our Two Lives In the 1952 novel “The Natural” by Bernard Malamud about a baseball prodigy whose career is sidetracked when he is shot by a sociopathic serial killer, later turned into a Robert Redford (drool) movie, one line rings true for all of us. It goes something like this: We get two lives, one we learn from and the other we get left with. Many of us feel that in our midlife years we are living in the life we got left with. We married the wrong person(s). We divorced and are now alone. Our child rearing efforts left us with one kid in jail and the other not speaking. We married the right... Read More

Your relationship with money and how your feel about it determines your success. Period. If you feel shame when you have debt or if you are paralyzed when making a certain investment because of a relative number, then your money mindsets are affecting your results. To be successful, it is crucial that you begin a lifelong study of healthy mindsets and behaviors you should have where your money is concerned. Mindsets are energy just as money is energy. And you can literally attract money by learning how to experience money in a healthy way. Here are three money mindsets that you can learn that will... Read More

The Top Ten Worst Ways to Say “No.” Ten: Isn\’t it my turn next month? You\’ve got an expectation here that the asker will let you off the hook. Even if you\’re correct, the asker may still want you to do this month too. Nine: I think I hear the teakettle. Delay isn\’t a bad tactic but unless you can whistle be straightforward and tell the asker you will get back to them tomorrow. Eight: I\’m not sure I\’m the best person for the job. The asker will think you\’re begging for a compliment. She wouldn\’t be asking if she didn\’t think... Read More

After ten years of running a 7 figure online business, I have concluded that success can be narrowed down to two specific areas of mastery. I call them the two M\’s – Mindsets and Marketing. And I want to make a BOLD statement here and say that if you can focus your efforts on mastering the Mindsets and the Marketing in your business, you will be successful! First, let\’s discuss the Mindsets… After years of learning and growing and accomplishing many goals I have set for myself, I decided that no matter what you decide to do in and with your life, your mindsets matters... Read More

Looking Back – My Forty Years as a Psychologist This month\’s column records my personal journey as I head for retirement this fall after being employed 40 years as a clinical psychologist. Perhaps my comments on my own journey could have meaning for some of you if you are on a similar journey. I got my very first professional job August 1, 1969 at the tender age of twenty-six. Were we ever really that young? Although I started in a research psychologist position, studying the effects of Ritalin on children\’s learning and behavioral problems, I remember thinking at the time…would... Read More

Here are six “ways of being” that all authentic and visionary leaders practice. These are leaders that lead with purpose and are strategically creating positive change in the world. These leaders don\’t have to focus on the bottom line all the time because their results are so powerful that their business bank account just grows as a result of how attractive their business energy is. Let me explain: 1) Always Be Positive and Grateful This behavior or this way of being is so powerful and allows you to anchor all lessons and grow from them. Your ability to see forward movement in... Read More

The Treatment Model of Psychotherapy This month\’s column is based on a very interesting presenting I heard a year or so ago from Dr. Arthur C. Bohart about what actually makes therapy work. The traditional assumption is that a patient or client presents their problems and the therapist makes a diagnosis. From that diagnosis, the therapist chooses what treatment to apply (medication, cognitive behavioral therapy, a Rogerian or Jungian approach, etc) to the patient\’s condition. The patient is then “fixed” by the treatment. This is a “treatment” model of therapy. The emphasis... Read More

Setting intentions is a conscious way of keeping yourself from going through life on autopilot. You can set an intention each morning, before a meeting or appointment, or even before you go to bed to guide your dreams. Marcia Weider defines intention this way: “to have in mind a purpose or plan, to direct the mind, to aim.” By practicing intention setting you can change your behaviors and eventually accomplish all of your goals. Some changes can happen in a moment, like a changed mindset for an instance and other growth requires the continuous practice of intention setting. I believe... Read More

Authors and solo professionals can grow their businesses by mastering the seven mental marketing principles outlined below: 1. Try new things. It is crucial that you stay involved in your industry and network with other professionals. You will learn the techniques that really work and build phenomenal long-lasting partnerships this way. For instance, have you considered hosting an online radio show, podcasting, or blogging to promote your books and other products? 2. Recognize fear and move through it. Are your fears keeping you from trying new marketing techniques? Pick up the phone and ask... Read More

As the President of the Association of Web Entrepreneurs, I help entrepreneurs create systems and automate their online businesses so they can make more money and enjoy more freedom in their lives. Here are 4 things you must do to build a strong foundation as you grow your online company. Skip one of these and you simply won\’t be able to create a long-term sustainable online business. 1. You Must Find Your Ideal Target Market When someone visits your website or reads your marketing materials, one of the very first things they think is: “Is this service or product for me?” They... Read More