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Are You Guilty of Taking Your Excellence For Granted?

March 18th, 2014

Are You Guilty of Taking Your Excellence For Granted? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Associate for Healthy Relationships Perhaps… You did well in school with practically no effort. You’ve always been well-liked, even in grammar school. You’ve aced every employment interview you’ve ever had. Your people skills feel like second nature and people have always come to you for help. You receive praise from your manager but it doesn’t mean much because you’ve always been able to perform well. You enjoy your work because using your best skills is a real pleasure so you don’t... Read More

What Inspires Me: Understanding The Anxiety-Depression Swing

February 22nd, 2014

What Inspires Me: Understanding The Anxiety-Depression Swing By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Associate When I was early on in my private practice as a clinical psychologist some 30 years ago, I kept noticing how so many of my clients suffered from a pattern of anxiety as they pursued a goal that they desired (their frustration with not achieving the goal was usually the reason they had come to me for help in the first place). Yet, after making some minor progress they would reel back from the anxiety and soon they would fall into a nagging depression. These weren’t... Read More

As It Does Every Year, The Year-End Holiday Season Offers Us An Opportunity to Recognize, and Celebrate The Magic Of Our Cultural and Religious Differences. Why Not Relish It?

December 1st, 2013

As It Does Every Year, The Year-End Holiday Season Offers Us An Opportunity to Recognize and Celebrate The Magic Of Our Cultural and Religious Differences. Why Not Relish It? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert The year\’s fourth quarter — the period from October through the first of the next year — is a wonderful time of the year. There are a number of major holidays of course. But more importantly, these events give us a huge opportunity to recognize and celebrate the magic of the global “melting pot” in which we live and work. For example,... Read More

Looking for Something to Do Together? How About Taking Ballroom Dance Lessons! (No Worries About “So You Think You Can Dance?” The Answer Is: “Yes, You Can!”)

November 7th, 2013

Looking for Something to Do Together? How About Taking Ballroom Dance Lessons! (No Worries About “So You Think You Can Dance?” The Answer Is: “Yes, You Can!“) By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert If hot and sandy activities like swimming, snorkeling, scuba diving, and surfboarding are not your thing, but you want the pleasure of moving your body—get out and learn to dance. Even if you already enjoy dancing, like my husband Jim Sniechowski, PhD and I do, that doesn’t mean there isn’t more fun to be had. We do a mean “get down and... Read More

Be Sure to Laugh & Play

September 24th, 2012

12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert Perhaps you\’re in a long-term relationship and the joy is gone. You don\’t want to be with anyone else but you wish it could be more fun, more exciting. Do you miss when you were younger and felt more comfortable being silly and playful as a form of real romance? Did you get married and decide you had to act like “grown-ups” and a lot of the fun went with it? Or have you always thought you needed to be serious in matters of love? Maybe you’re... Read More

12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life

June 4th, 2012

12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert You can have The New Intimacy in your life. And, it\’s easier than you think! All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before long you\’ll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it all worthwhile. See what magic you create! Step 1: ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS. Do you have trouble accepting... Read More

Can You Be Loved for Being Different?

July 7th, 2011

Can You Be Loved for Being Different? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert Before we get into what it means to be loved for being different in your wisdom-elder years, we want to take you on a bit of a vision quest. When you were growing up what did you learn about how you were supposed to think about and treat people who were different from you and your family? What did your family say? How about your friends? Neighbors? What were the messages you received either openly or by suggestion? You may not have an answer right off, because this is not a question that... Read More

Conflicts Can Be… Romantic?

May 13th, 2011

Conflicts Can Be… Romantic? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting The “Right Way” to Do Things, “You Just Don\’t Get It” and on and on . . . And whether you’ve been together for years and years, or you’ve become a couple just recently, no doubt both of you have your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. Add to that the entrenched ideas about... Read More

A Simple Prayer

April 5th, 2011

A Simple Prayer By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert I’ve been reading a remarkable and lovely book Love Thyself: The Message From Water III written by doctor of alternative medicine and international authority on micro-cluster water Masaru Emoto. You may have followed Emoto’s exploration and photographic documentation of how emotions effect frozen water crystals, as he has written several well-received books on the topic. If not, it’s important that you understand that his work is a vivid reflection of the power of your words and emotions to effect... Read More

Perfecting Your Genius…

January 10th, 2011

Perfecting Your Genius… By Judith Sherven NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert Perfecting your genius, magnifying your excellence…  It\’s all the same thing! When my brother recently sent me  this video of Larry Griswald on the Frank Sinatra Show – from way back in 1951 – I  just knew I had to share it with you! This guy is a true athlete and comedian. How many hits & bruises did he take in perfecting the act? Just for the record, Larry Griswald was co-inventor of  the trampoline, a comedian, and a world class swimmer and diver. Enjoy! And as you do,... Read More