Monday, November 20, 2017

As You Celebrate the Special Life Events the Spring and Summer Bring, Remember: Someone Believes in You

May 14th, 2015

By Natalie Caine, MA, for the NABBW Think about all those special life milestones and events: Wedding, Graduation, New job, New parenting, A new grandchild, A relocation, Even a new day — All these are happy changes. And behind your smiles and raised glasses, there are people standing up for you. Supporting you. They believe in you. They give to you because they want you to understand that you matter. They want you to have bricks under your feet. They want you to feel hugged. We forget to visit happy memories as moon light to help you stand, over and over when you collapse, and when... Read More

Parents Need to Recognize Their Goals for Collegiate Spring Break May Not Match Their Student’s Desires

March 17th, 2015

By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Associate for Life in Transition Whether you are a first time parent of a college student or an experienced one, as Spring Break arrives, it’s likely you are planning their favorite meals and watching the clock, hoping their plane or car arrives on time. You’re anxious to have your family finally be “all together again.” And you can’t wait to finally see their faces! Meanwhile, your favorite college student likely has a totally different set of goals. I remember a group of college kids shared with me that they have been so stressed... Read More

Celebrate Love This February. Specifically, Choose to Focus on What You Love About Yourself

January 24th, 2014

Celebrate Love This February. Specifically, Choose to Focus on What You Love About Yourself By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert  Read More

The Holidays Are Upon Us: How Are You Doing At Projecting an Image of “Warmth and Welcome?”

November 24th, 2013

The Holidays Are Upon Us: How Are You Doing At Projecting an Image of “Warmth and Welcome?” By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert Thanksgiving and holiday time brings out the shine, goodies and beauty, as well as my black stretch pants.   I love the holidays for its anticipation, creativity, memories of loved ones, sentiments, and new traditions. When we travel and gather, like a decorated room, we mix and match.  We move our lives around, like chairs, and hope for comfort and connection. I know holidays also bring expectations and disappointments from the mundane... Read More

What Do You Worry About?

October 19th, 2013

What Do You Worry About? By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert Changes, like empty nest, bring up past losses and worries. Your inner critic may have a feast saying things in your head that aren’t true. Recently, our group shared what worries them. Perhaps some of the items on their list sound familiar to you. How about: Not hearing from my kids for weeks Not feeling important/needed Lose of interest in my partner Lack of passion No sex drive at this stage of life Being lonely Finances not being enough for my future Health limitations that will make me feel old and not able... Read More

Is Empty Nest Necessary?

October 13th, 2013

Is Empty Nest Necessary? By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert In my group, sweet Susan said with a slight laugh, “Loss is necessary but is empty nest?” We were talking about the cumulative losses over our lifetimes. Susan was having a sad day. Her bottom line essentially boiled down to this, “I tried for months to get pregnant, then put up with enforced bed rest in order to stay pregnant, then once he got to age two I had to raise him by myself, etc.,  Yet no one told me loss is necessary and he will leave, and won’t put a thank-you note in my mailbox. Experts... Read More

Intensity in the Empty Nest

September 29th, 2013

Intensity in the Empty Nest By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert   As we ease out of Summer, and into Fall, many of us will agree that we\’ve been through an intense time. That\’s why it is now time to take a few minutes for ourselves, and why it is especially important to review our core values. For me, when I remember that I am more than what I am in the midst of living, then I can be present with perseverance and hope. Wondering where to start? Here are some suggestions: Review your talents. Check out how you are doing with your self-worth. Don\’t allow... Read More

Empty Nest—The Count Down

August 13th, 2013

Empty Nest — The Count Down By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert    Read More

Give Yourself Permission to Play This Summer

July 22nd, 2013

Give Yourself Permission to Play This Summer By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert    Read More

For Boomer Women It\’s Still Father\’s Day, Even If You\’ve Lost Your Dad

June 15th, 2013

For Boomer Women It\’s Still Father\’s Day, Even If You\’ve Lost Your Dad By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert   Does the memory of your dad bring a smile?  It does for me.   In our group, many of us have lost our dad.  Still Father\’s Day is around the corner. Some treasure just this one more time with dad, Sunday, at their house, wondering if it will be the last Father\’s Day together.  Gratitude for another time to simply sit in the same room with dad even if he doesn\’t have much to say. Other parents love watching their little ones... Read More