Fundamental to all life on the planet . . . is the fact that we’re all different from each other. And yet what do most people do when they encounter those differences? They either change themselves “to fit in” or they try to change the other person. Here’s why . . . When you want to change somebody, the truth is you are scared — under threat. You only want things to be the way you want them to be. You want control rather than connection. This is not to say that if someone is bothering you, you shouldn\’t ask for change. Of course you need to speak up and insist on better... Read More

Chances are you never thought you needed to be rescued from romance. In fact, you probably feel you need more romance in your life, not less. The truth is that most hearts are broken in the painful difference between the possibility of real romance, and the insistence on the fantasy of romance — with the real thing taking the loss. Recovering from romantic fantasy is based on your willingness to accept who you and your partner are — without deceit, without drama, without all of the false puffery so many of us put around our images of love, relationship and intimacy. Recovering from romantic... Read More

Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Chores, Money, Sex, In laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations, Disciplining the Children, Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting, The “Right Way” to Do Things, “You Just Don\’t Get It,” and on and on . . . And you\’ve got your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. That\’s why we offer 5 keys to a romantic outcome, when you know how to resolve your conflicts in a way that benefits each of you, and your relationship. 1) You Are Both Right: each of you brings some... Read More

Fundamental to all life on the planet . . . is the fact that we\’re all different from each other. And yet what do most people do when they encounter those differences? They either change themselves “to fit in” or they try to change the other person. Here\’s why . . . When you want to change somebody, the truth is you are scared–under threat. You only want things to be the way you want them to be. You want control rather than connection. This is not to say that if someone is bothering you, you shouldn\’t ask for change. Of course you need to speak up... Read More

When you think of people who are living a fabulous life who comes to mind? Bill Gates? Meryl Streep? Some prince, princess, or high dignitary? Bill Gates is the richest man in the world and he is deeply involved in helping people around the world. That\’s not only fabulous, that\’s almost fabled. But if you knew someone who was going about their life without fame, wealth, and public adulation, would you say that that person is living a fabulous life? For most people the answer would be “No.” And that makes the lives of 99%-plus of the people alive at any time un-fabulous. Are... Read More

The celebration of the New Year is the oldest of all continuing holidays. It was observed 4000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians and has continued, with only minor interruptions, into modern times. Anything with a history that long and enduring clearly has deep significance for the human psyche. Perhaps it\’s simply a celebration of being alive, having made it through another circle of the sun. But for many of us there is also the recognition of death and rebirth, a letting go of what has been and surrendering to what is yet to be. Philosophers make the distinction between “being”–that... Read More

You can have great romance – real romance – for the rest of your life. And, it\’s easier than you think! All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before long you\’ll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it all worthwhile. See what magic you create! Step 1: ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS. Do you have trouble accepting compliments? Most people do. The first step toward The New Intimacy is to pay... Read More

Imagine the richest relationship you could ever have. What would that be like? Envision a relationship in which conflicts, even fighting, don\’t drive you apart but deepen the connection between you. Picture the sheer joy of discovering a love that thrives on the ordinary experiences of everyday life and is more passionate and spiritually satisfying than your most lavish fantasy. Trust you can keep romance alive no matter how long you are together! Is that a relationship you want? Not only is a love like this possible, but it\’s available to you right now. All you have to do is be... Read More

In the early days of love it all seems so bliss filled and romantic – and it feels like it will last forever. Then you settle down, get married, create a home, have kids and……where did the magic go!? There\’s so much to do, the errands never end, the house always needs work, the kids are demanding, and your love seems to have slipped away. Or has it? You wish you felt more connected. You wish it was more like it was in the beginning when you couldn\’t get enough of being together. And perhaps you feel overburdened and lonely doing the chores and making a living... Read More

You\’ve had the experience, just like we have, of wanting to approach someone at a party and then feeling shy, scared, not-good-enough. Right? Just like us, you\’ve wanted to ask for a job, a promotion, special guidance for the next step of your career, but then you felt weird, strangely anxious, and you either forgot about it or went ahead in some lame, bound-for-defeat kind of way. It was a special occasion, so you decided, like we have, to wear your most outstanding suit or outfit. But once you put it on, you started feeling uncertain whether you should actually “stand out.”... Read More