Thursday - February 29, 2024

Workin\’ it Out — Together

January 14th, 2010

In the early days of love, it all seems so bliss filled and romantic — and it feels like it will last forever. Then you settle down, get married, create a home, have kids and……where did the magic go!? There\’s so much to do, the errands never end, the house always needs work, the kids are demanding, and your love seems to have slipped away. Or has it? You wish you felt more connected. You wish it were more like it was in the beginning when you couldn\’t get enough of being together. And perhaps you feel overburdened and lonely doing the chores and making a living... Read More

The Alchemy of Real Romance

November 11th, 2009

When you connect with and experience your own feelings while, at the same time, taking in the feelings of the one you love, you are walking straight into the open heartspace of real romance. That’s where you find the special connections you make with one another, whether small and subtle or grand and brilliant. The following story from our own courtship reveals much about the fear we all have of being truly intimate and surrendering to love. It also tells of the real romance that’s available whenever you open yourself and let someone in — even when limited by your own fears and resistance.... Read More

Can You Be Loved for Being Different?

July 16th, 2009

When you were growing up what did you learn about how you were supposed to think about and treat people who were different from you and your family? What did your family say? How about your friends? Neighbors? What were the messages you received either openly or by suggestion? You may not have an answer right off, because this is not a question that gets asked very often. But think about it. It holds the key to better relationships in every area of your life. We\’ve asked thousands of men and women in the U.S. and overseas. They\’ve all admitted that what they learned, some more intensely... Read More

It\’s Gardening Time, So Fertilize Your Love

June 11th, 2009

Winter\’s come and gone. And now, how does your garden grow? No doubt it\’s survived some difficult times during these past months, and yet it\’s still there waiting for you to grab some seeds, a bag of mulch, the trowel and your flowered gloves so you can get busy transforming it into this year\’s special garden. If you think about it, that\’s not unlike how romantic relationships progress. They, too, go through challenging weather conditions followed by new times of growth and expansion. So while, at this time, the grounds surrounding your home may be calling... Read More

Real Romance On A Pillow

April 14th, 2009

When you are open to real romance as an every day part of your love life, often, what seems to be insignificant on first blush, takes on powerful meaning for both of you. Imagine it\’s early morning, and you have time to snuggle and cuddle with the one you love. (We write this from the point of view of a man, but it applies both ways.) Your lover rolls over and places her head on your shoulder and drapes her leg across yours. It\’s delicious! But you know she can\’t stay there very long, no matter how much she might want to, because the she will shortly become uncomfortable. Your... Read More

Suffering From Negative Head-Talk?

March 12th, 2009

Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of self-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters away in our heads. And, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled “The Fear of Being Fabulous” we received a request from a participant who said: “I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps you from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I\’m stopped by my head talk.” Here\’s our answer . . . First, you\’ll know it\’s Head-Talk by the repetitive, nagging attack on who you are. Your self-respect and self-esteem can end up in the... Read More

Dream Big, Dream With Love

January 13th, 2009

The celebration of the New Year is the oldest of all continuing holidays. It was observed 4000 years ago by the ancient Babylonians and has continued, with only minor interruptions, into modern times. Anything with a history that long and enduring clearly has deep significance for the human psyche. Perhaps it\’s simply a celebration of being alive, having made it through another circle of the sun. But for many of us there is also the recognition of death and rebirth, a letting go of what has been and surrendering to what is yet to be. Philosophers make the distinction between “being”—that... Read More

The Gift of Receiving

December 12th, 2008

You\’re busy checking off the items on your to-do list. Most of the gifts have been wrapped. And the holiday cards made it to the post office this morning. Oh, but you forgot about your daughter\’s teacher! And what to take to the Smith\’s annual Christmas Eve get together? And then the cookies for the school carnival and you used the last of the sugar in yesterday\’s brownies for the church fund raiser. Then just at the same time that you are trying to figure out what to wear to the office party, what should occur? Your two tiny elves run into your bedroom loaded down... Read More

The Price of Gratitude

November 12th, 2008

Long before we get to the table laden with turkey, cranberry sauce and over-sweet yams, we are face-to-face with the challenge of gratitude all month long. For most of the year we can duck and dodge the pressures of thankfulness, and most people do — openly admitting to having a terrible time accepting compliments, much less the larger implications of being truly loved. So the questions must be asked: Why do we have such a difficult and sometimes painful time receiving the blessings of other people\’s affection, admiration and sincere love? What is so powerful that it so often fiercely... Read More

Love and Romance Are Always Created by Both of You

September 12th, 2008

Fundamental to understanding how relationships actually work, it’s essential to appreciate that two people are always co-creating their relationship — right from the moment they meet. They indicate what they like and what they don\’t, what they’ll put up with or not, how generous they are, emotionally, spiritually, monetarily, or not. They speak up for themselves or they don\’t, and they receive the caring coming their way or they can\’t. This two-way give-and-take goes on throughout the life of any relationship, either in the service of the love and romance two people... Read More