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Milestones Are Not Set in Stone

Milestones Are Not Set in Stone

By Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D. and Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D.
For the NABBW

rosemary and phyllisIf you\’ve recently celebrated a landmark birthday, you may be thinking about the milestones in your life. Crossing from one personal decade into another is a significant event and takes on a life of its own.

Connecting with friends who are also making this transition can help focus on what you\’ve gained over the years – memories, perspective, wisdom – rather than on what you\’ve lost – agility, some energy, your youth!

Even though the signpost for an event may be firmly planted and unchangeable, our reactions to it are certainly not set in stone. We have choices to make about how we want to continue on the journey.

As we each write our own life stories, here are some of the options that remain open:

Choose which road to take

At any age, we often have several different opportunities available – what interest to pursue, where to live, which job to take.

These diverse paths may converge on the same endpoint or they may take us in completely different directions. We may not know the outcome when we begin, but we do have the ability to change course along the way if our initial choice does not seem to be working well.

Decide how to travel the path

For some, being in control and knowing what to expect along the way create an environment of trust. This grounding can bring greater confidence and even the ability to bounce back after a letdown. Other times without overly planning, we can enjoy the result of serendipity and take joy in the unexpected.

Pick who will accompany you
  • Do you enjoy spending time with old friends and family who know you best?
  • Or do you prefer meeting new people along the way and learning about their differences?
  • Do you resonate with those in your own age group or would you rather hang out with younger or older folks?
  • Do you like to hang out with one especially close person or a group of friends?
  • Perhaps you may prefer some solitude and choose to take a part of the trip solo.
Select how fast you will go

You may be filled with ambition and motivation to accomplish a specific goal in record time.

Or at this point in your life, you may want to enjoy the process of the journey itself as you \’stop and smell the roses.\’

Your experience along the way will be a result of how you choose to structure this part of your travels. You can focus like a laser on the task at hand or explore and encounter alternatives at the edges.

When you recognize your part in the process, you can use these tips to guide you. The choices you make after a milestone event give you the freedom to direct how you might be celebrating the next significant occasion in your life. So get started and have the confetti nearby.

© 2014, Her Mentor Center

Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D. and Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D. are consultants in family dynamics. If you\’re coping with marital stress, acting out teens, aging parents, boomerang kids or difficult daughters-in-law, they have solutions for you. Visit their blog and website, http://www.HerMentorCenter.com, to subscribe to their free newsletter, “Stepping Stones,” and download complimentary eBooks, “Courage and Lessons Learned: Reaching for Your Goals” and “Taking Control of Stress in a Financial Storm.”

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