Future Shock: The New Dis-Ease of Our Time I still have my original copy, though it\’s falling apart. Most pages are covered with little stars with underlines to remind me of important things to remember. It was a mind-blowing book for me (I must admit that even as a 60s activist in Berkeley, books were much more dazzling, exciting, and mind expanding than any drugs that were available). The first line in the introduction grabbed me immediately and has held on to me for nearly 40 years. “This is a book about what happens to people when they are overwhelmed by change. It is about the... Read More

After 44 years helping men and women achieve more satisfying and joyful relationships, I’ve accumulated some helpful wisdom. I’ve written about the 25 Most Important Things about Men and 25 Most Important Things about Sex, Love, and Marriage. Here’s some wisdom about women, sex, and love. 25. “You never lose by loving. You lose by holding back.” –Barbara De Angelis 24. “Woman the bowl, the urn, the cave, the musky jungle. We are the dark mysterium! We are hidden folds and primal wisdom and always, always, the womb, bearing life, releasing life, and then sucking it back in again,... Read More

One of the most consistent responses I get from men and women was how much irritability, anger and sullen withdrawal was present in males particularly between the ages of 40 and 55. “It\’s like he\’s a different man,” one woman wrote to me. “He had always been kind, considerate and caring. Now he treats us all so meanly. I don\’t understand it.” “I love my wife, I really do,” a man in his 40s confided, “but she drives me up the wall. She wonders why I get so angry all the time. What does she expect when she keeps hitting me in the... Read More

As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been enlightening. I’d like to share some words of wisdom that have been helpful to us along the way. Here are the 25 most helpful things that wise men and women have shared on the subject of love, marriage, and relationship and how to have happy and long-lasting ones. Let’s start with number 25. 25. Once a woman has forgiven her man,... Read More

My father tried to commit suicide when I was five years old. He recovered, but my life was never the same. I went to medical school, then graduate school. For the last 44 years I have specialized in helping men and the women who love them. I think I\’ve been trying, on some level, to understand what happened to my father so that I can be a better father to my sons and daughter, a better husband to my wife, and a better friend to myself. My first book, Inside Out: Becoming My Own Man, was published in 1983. In the introduction I wrote, “The Women\’s Movement first helped me question... Read More

Excerpt paraphrased from Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor\’s Story Not long after the marriage ceremony, my new husband, Todd, wanted to buy land in Chandler, Arizona. He said we could get rich quick on the land while living cheap in a trailer. I was only twenty-one, and I objected to moving out of Tempe, away from my Arizona State University campus friends. Todd threw fits, until it seemed easier to comply with his wishes than to confront his temper. So we moved deep into the desert, past the dairy farm and the rodeo arena, where the alfalfa fields were newly zoned for mobile homes. It... Read More

“Do whatever you can to get out of dollar denominated assets and do it quickly,” warned Michael Ruppert author of Crossing the Rubicon. “It is looking to me like the run on the dollar has begun in earnest. It is not too late to buy physical gold. That is what will shield you the best right now.” We now have a national debt exceeding $11 trillion and the budget deficit for 2009-2010 is expected to be over a trillion dollars. How long can we keep going into debt? How long can we base our future dreams on an ever expanding economy that is running up against the limits of a finite planet?... Read More

NABBW OCTOBER TELESEMINAR A Path to Writing and Publishing Memoirs with Sue Silverman Tuesday, October 20, 2009 3:00 p.m. EST www.suewilliamsilverman.com “A Conversation with Award-Winning Author Sue William Silverman on Writing and Publishing Memoir” It\’s been said that everyone has a story to tell. Are you interested in writing your own memoir? Does the thought of writing and publishing your own story seem overwhelming? Maybe you\’re not sure where to start, or you lack the confidence and knowledge to find your authentic voice. Then join us as Sue William Silverman, www.suewilliamsilverman.com,... Read More

“Putting on the Best Face, Naturally” by Ruth La Ferla in the NY Times..Friday, September 25, 2009…began this way At New York Fashion Week, the wizards of the hair and makeup worlds turned their backs on the sumptuously lacquered looks of fall, approaching the new season with a lighter hand. To reinforce looks that ranged from robustly bohemian to languid and ethereal, most were sparing with paint box and spray, and even opted at times to let nature take its course. WOW! I though to myself–finally they are showing a look on the runway that real women can adopt. It\’s the philosophy... Read More

We need a “Hug Your Humorist” month, day, or year. Why not? After diligent research, I found that we celebrate: The Bilingual Child Month – mine have been bilingual every since they were teenagers. Have you ever tried to understand a teen? Not gonna happen. They have a language all of their own. The Class Reunion Month – I\’m pretty sure this coincides with the “Discounted Gym Membership” month. The Month of Free Thought – Better hurry and get all of your thinking in this month ‘cause next month, you pay. The National Kitchen and Bath Month – this is usually when I clean... Read More