Friday - August 12, 2022

Dealing With the Irritable Male Syndrome: The Six Strategies Women Always Try and the Only Strategy that Actually Works

July 15th, 2009

I learned a lot about who was suffering from the Irritable Male Syndrome from letters I received from men and women. Here are two that are typical of many. A 32-year-old man writes, “Over the past 3 years especially, I have noticed that my relationship with my wife has begun to deteriorate. In the past there were open displays of affection and frequent verbal affirmations. Now, I seem to be irritable all the time. My attitude seems to be ‘don\’t come near me, don\’t talk to me, I had a hard day, I want the entire world to piss off\’. She now rarely tries to hug me, never initiates... Read More

Hey Guys, Are You Depressed and Don\’t Know It?

July 14th, 2009

My wife, Carlin, and I walked tentatively into the nicely restored old building to attend the “family weekend.” Our son had been in treatment for a drug problem and we were there to learn and offer support. As part of the weekend experience, all the family members were given various questionnaires to fill out. One was a depression questionnaire. We dutifully filled it out and my wife scored “high” while I scored “low.” Carlin talked to a counselor who suggested that she might want to get evaluated for depression when we returned home. Driving back we talked and it became clear that... Read More

Male Menopause: How It Impacts Men, Women, and Families

June 23rd, 2009

“Man is not the enemy here, but the fellow victim.” Betty Friedan The male mid-life is often talked about in general or humorous terms, but rarely is it discussed seriously. Jed Diamond is a world authority on men in the mid-life period, and here he suggests an alternative to the traditional treatment given to men in the media. “Dear Abby: I am a 50-year-old man who has been married for 22 years. My wife and I have two wonderful teen-aged children. About six months ago, my wife\’s niece (I\’ll call her Rene), whom I had never met, came from another country to live with us so... Read More