As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been enlightening. I’d like to share some words of wisdom that have been helpful to us along the way. Here are the 25 most helpful things that wise men and women have shared on the subject of love, marriage, and relationship and how to have happy and long-lasting ones. Let’s start with number 25. 25. Once a woman has forgiven her man,... Read More

My father tried to commit suicide when I was five years old. He recovered, but my life was never the same. I went to medical school, then graduate school. For the last 44 years I have specialized in helping men and the women who love them. I think I\’ve been trying, on some level, to understand what happened to my father so that I can be a better father to my sons and daughter, a better husband to my wife, and a better friend to myself. My first book, Inside Out: Becoming My Own Man, was published in 1983. In the introduction I wrote, “The Women\’s Movement first helped me question... Read More

“Do whatever you can to get out of dollar denominated assets and do it quickly,” warned Michael Ruppert author of Crossing the Rubicon. “It is looking to me like the run on the dollar has begun in earnest. It is not too late to buy physical gold. That is what will shield you the best right now.” We now have a national debt exceeding $11 trillion and the budget deficit for 2009-2010 is expected to be over a trillion dollars. How long can we keep going into debt? How long can we base our future dreams on an ever expanding economy that is running up against the limits of a finite planet?... Read More

My men\’s group has been meeting regularly since 1979. We began meeting when we all lived in Marin County, California and felt the need for a supportive environment to discuss the changes going on in our lives. We\’re seven guys who now range in age from 61 to 71. During the last 30 years, two guys have dropped out and two guys have been added. The last “newcomer” joined the group 19 years ago. We now meet for a 5 day gathering four times a year. It\’s something that we all look forward to and never miss. We met recently in Seattle were T lives now and during our time together,... Read More

Depression is one of the most destructive diseases of modern life. According to Dr. Stephen S. Ilardi, author of The Depression Cure, “Depression is a devastating illness. It robs people of their energy, their sleep, their memory, their concentration, their vitality, their joy, their ability to love and work and play, and—sometimes—even their will to live.” Not only does depression take away our spiritual and emotional health, it also undermines our physical health. Recent research reported by Johns Hopkins Medical Center indicates depression increases the risk of heart disease and it... Read More

Dear Dr. Jed, I was in my doctor’s waiting room and just so happened to read an article in the grapevine magazine about “The Irritable Male Syndrome.” This described my husband to a T. He’s started to take things out on my children getting very angry at them and bringing their confidence down. He would also degrade me about my weight and appearance and would call me names. He said that everything was my fault. I finally decided to take my kids away for a week to get away from him. We had a great time and I began to find myself again. When I got back I felt a lot better about... Read More

I have the world\’s best job. I\’m a Futures Therapist. It\’s my job to help men, women, and children learn to live well in the world of the future. Really, there is no single future we are moving towards, but a number of possible futures. Most therapists are trying to help people to adapt to a world that no longer exists. Since the profession of Futures Therapist may be new to you, let me explain how I got it into it and how you can too. In 1965 I graduated from U.C. Santa Barbara and was on my way to U.C. San Francisco School of Medicine. I wasn\’t sure I wanted to be... Read More

Millions of middle-aged men have used Viagra in order to improve erections and enhance their sex lives. Ever since the drug was first released in 1998 there has been talk about the possible benefits for women suffering from sexual dysfunction. Certainly Pfizer (and other pharmaceutical companies) would like to expand their sales to the other half of the human population. Once a prescription drug is approved for at least one indication, physicians are free to prescribe it for any other disorders or symptoms for which they believe it would be effective, a practice called off-label prescribing.... Read More

Dear Dr. Diamond, Three months ago my husband lost his job. I\’ve done my best to be understanding and supportive, but he\’s getting more irritable, angry, and withdrawn. I try and let him know I don\’t blame him, that it\’s the economy not something he\’s done wrong, but he just snaps my had off. It\’s hard enough not having his paycheck, but what\’s even worse is the strain this is putting on our relationship. I don\’t want our marriage to fall apart. What can I do? As a psychotherapist, specializing in men\’s health, I get letters... Read More

A few years ago my wife and I spent three months in New Zealand. We were struck by the beauty of the country, the slow pace of life, and the friendliness of the people. We had a wonderful experience on December 21st, my birthday. My whole life I’ve celebrated the shortest, darkest day of the year. But in the Southern hemisphere, of course, it’s the longest, brightest day of the year. We were walking downtown and had planned to have dinner at a nice restaurant. It was late afternoon and my wife said she wanted to do a little shopping before the shops closed. I chuckled to myself and thought,... Read More