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Four Tips for How Not to Sweat the Small Stuff

July 26th, 2013

Four Tips for How Not to Sweat the Small Stuff By Deanna Brann, Ph.D. NABBW’s In-Law Survival Associate   How many times has someone in your life—an in-law, spouse, co-worker, friend, or whoever—done something or said something that just makes your blood boil and you can’t seem to let it go? You keep replaying it over and over in your head, and the more you think about it the angrier or more hurt you feel. In fact, you find you can’t stop thinking about it. We all have experienced this at one time or another. Even if you don’t say anything to the other person at the time, his... Read More

Give Yourself Permission to Play This Summer

July 22nd, 2013

Give Yourself Permission to Play This Summer By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert   Whether solo or with a friend, summer invites you to get out and see what you haven\’t had the chance to explore.   Our groups, which sometimes meet on the telephone, all agreed, that two days of getting out of town, lifted their spirits while in a transition.   They laughed at how some decisions –  like getting out of town – are easy yet others feel spin them into exhaustion. Here is a short list of what they have been doing: Visiting local gardens Kayaking  Enjoying... Read More

For Boomer Women It\’s Still Father\’s Day, Even If You\’ve Lost Your Dad

June 15th, 2013

For Boomer Women It\’s Still Father\’s Day, Even If You\’ve Lost Your Dad By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert   Does the memory of your dad bring a smile?  It does for me.   In our group, many of us have lost our dad.  Still Father\’s Day is around the corner. Some treasure just this one more time with dad, Sunday, at their house, wondering if it will be the last Father\’s Day together.  Gratitude for another time to simply sit in the same room with dad even if he doesn\’t have much to say. Other parents love watching their little ones... Read More

100 Cameras, My Story

March 6th, 2013

By Natalie Caine M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert   When my daughter went 3,000 miles to college, I felt a spread of feelings.  Happy for her, excited that I, her mother was a part of her journey up to this door and empty from a role I loved and knew was shifting. I had a career, husband, friends, family, and lovely home.  I tell you that because I wasn’t void of a good life.  I was void of being with my daughter.  The daily, ordinary days of parenting and challenging hours of differences came to a sudden stop. No longer did I start my day attending to her needs and schedule.  What... Read More

Thanksgiving

November 19th, 2012

Thanksgiving By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert The friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you. Elbert Hubbard Memories rise up. People we have spent time with and those we no longer can see, come visiting in our minds and hearts. Memories are a good thing. We fear the tears, the loneliness, and we long for connections. What I appreciate about the human spirit is we get to begin, again. We get to be brave and make up new traditions, break some rules, and allow who we are today to simply be happy. Some people have communities and others don\’t.... Read More

Change It Up

October 24th, 2012

Change It Up By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert When I was in Boston last week, I tried something new. While walking, and this sounds silly I know, I would stop and look up. People in windows, staircases, cranes, flashing tall lights, birds and squirrels, shoes, the moon, stars, planes, lanterns, animals in the clouds. When I have the fun of taking photos, I photograph a different perspective rather than only what is right in front of me with the object. In my morning support group of transitions, we made a list of what we are going to do differently this week: 1. Not start... Read More

Be Sure to Laugh & Play

September 24th, 2012

12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert Perhaps you\’re in a long-term relationship and the joy is gone. You don\’t want to be with anyone else but you wish it could be more fun, more exciting. Do you miss when you were younger and felt more comfortable being silly and playful as a form of real romance? Did you get married and decide you had to act like “grown-ups” and a lot of the fun went with it? Or have you always thought you needed to be serious in matters of love? Maybe you’re... Read More

3 Tips On How To Increase Your Odds Of Staying Married The Second Time

September 22nd, 2012

Without intervention, divorce rates look like this: First marriage: 50 percent end in divorce Second marriage: 64 percent end in divorce Third marriage: 74 percent end in divorce I believe it is possible to lower the higher divorce rate for second marriages. Before entering into another relationship, you must be willing to take the time for your own personal development and learn healthy relationship skills that will move your life forward after the first divorce. Becoming single again is scary, and it may feel like you are on an emotional roller-coaster ride. Unfortunately, being single again... Read More

Why Don\’t More Parents Talk About Empty Nest?

September 21st, 2012

Why Don\’t More Parents Talk About Empty Nest? By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert This weekend kids are packing up and heading to college. Parents are shocked at the gut pain they are feeling, hugging goodbye. The “ugly cry” visits them at unpredictable times, like while marketing. Goodbye drops them into the reality that their parenting role will never be as it was before. They are kicked out of the kingdom with an unfamiliar role as parents. Parents are in the background, not leading, not seeing day to day, and not hearing the stories after school. It is... Read More

Saying Goodbye to Your College Bound Kids

September 15th, 2012

Saying Goodbye to Your College Bound Kids By Natalie Caine, M.A. NABBW’s Empty Nest Expert In our parent group, I suggested each share what they will miss and what they look forward to when they aren\’t parents every day. I suggested they remember to allow different parts of them to speak, the confident one, the brave one, the sad one, the freedom one, etc. We forget we have so many parts within us when sadness grips. Tears are a great thing even though I have never met one person who likes to cry unless they are alone. Even alone, the beginning of tears feels the worst because you... Read More