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“Suffering From The Love Grip?”

November 14th, 2006

1. If you feel held back, stuck in a rut, blocked from the love and success you want, and you don\’t\’ know why – you are under the spell of what we call The Love Grip. When we\’re too young to know the difference, we unwittingly give our innate love and loyalty to our parents and larger family, culture, neighborhood and church and thereby internalize their all too often limited and negative judgments of who we are. Because we are largely unformed, we readily and without question believe what we are told about our lack of value, our incompetence, and our tiny place in... Read More

l i f e i n t r a n s i t i o n . . . w h a t \’ s n e x t ?

October 13th, 2006

A GATHERING FOREMPTY NEST WOMEN All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter into another. – Gail Sheehy, PASSAGES (1979) About Natalie Caine Natalie Caine M.A. is the founder of Empty Nest Support Services and http://www.emptynestsupport.com/ , launched in 2001. You can listen to her live interview with Lifetime Radio Network for Women on her website. Natalie has been featured in newspapers and magazines as an expert for empty nesters. She has taught Anticipating the Empty Nest... Read More

The Success Prison: Are You Incarcerated?

October 11th, 2006

If you feel frustrated, even mystified by what\’s standing in the way of your greater success, it\’s actually not that difficult to understand. The question is: Are you ready? Really ready? Because the answer lives down in your unconscious . . . laying there . . . lying to you. And that\’s not just clever writing, that\’s the truth about your inner saboteur— that lying, scheming, sneaky inner voice that whispers at you creating doubt and despair, or sometimes lays silent, waiting for it\’s next chance to undermine your desire and ambition. And what is it\’s... Read More

20 Tips for Parents Dreading the Empty Nest

September 15th, 2006

The road you have traveled for eighteen years as parents is turning a corner, headed for a bridge. What is the truth about what is on the other side of the bridge? What changes do you have to address in order to stay healthily connected in your new role and your adult child\’s role with you? Does this change mean filling in free time or deeply discovering parts of yourself you had to put in the trunk? Crying is mandatory. Ok, there are no rules so forget mandatory. But I would bet tears will fall when you least want them plugging your nose and smearing your eyes. Last year a mom called me... Read More

“Dying A Fabulous Death . . . Is That Possible?”

September 15th, 2006

Think about the reasons you\’re glad to be alive. Those everyday things that you may even take for granted: being able to walk, talk, see, hear, cook, garden, drive a car, dance at parties, eat a terrific meal and laugh with friends. And then think about what it would be like to start losing most of those abilities. Jim\’s mother has lived nearly 91 years, and up until the past year she has enjoyed almost all of the abilities we just listed (though she never learned to drive a car and her hearing and vision were starting to diminish). Up until a year ago Matka (Polish for mother)... Read More

What Do I Want to Be When I Grow Up?

August 1st, 2006

I am an empty nester who loves being a mom. I don\’t love my career anymore, and now I have to figure out “What do I want to be when I grow up? Coping with the quiet house and no fussing over meals, and no more soccer games is a big hole for me. That is just part of the darkness. I was on committees at her school and did morning car pool when she was younger. We watched old videos of her, with Kleenex and popcorn tossed on the floor, right before her send off to college. How could this go so fast? I never thought about the empty nest until she was a junior in high school. It wouldn\’t... Read More

Making the Most of “Mistakes”

August 1st, 2006

It\’s so easy to feel embarrassed and humiliated by the dumb stuff we all do. You\’ve no doubt tried to hide the evidence that would expose you. And every one of us has lied to cover up our mishaps. But what about turning moments that might be thought of as mistakes into part of your intimate family history? The other day Judith decided she would make lamb stew. But she didn\’t have any flour to thicken her concoction. So she thought by mashing up some of the cooked potatoes and putting that into the mix it would do the job. Well, it didn\’t. So what she ended up with was... Read More

Tools For Reinvention

July 1st, 2006

When one\’s life is in transition, questions arise about wanting a gigantic change, an alteration or a variation of what is already there. Below are some questions to consider.• What are the “normal” thoughts and feelings during this cycle? How long does the “grieving” last? • Whether you are a parent who chose a career or not, you are a parent who is going through this major transition. A cycle of your life is ending. What are your dreams now? • How do you build a new community now that school days with your child are over? • How do you continue... Read More

Suffering From Negative Head-Talk?

July 1st, 2006

Nearly everyone does battle with that pesky voice of self-judgment and sabotaging put-downs that chatters away in our heads. And, in response to a recent teleseminar we gave titled “The Fear of Being Fabulous” we received a request from a participant who said: “I would love to hear how you remove the head talk that keeps you from being fabulous. I can get so far and then I\’m stopped by my head talk.” Here\’s our answer . . . First, you\’ll know it\’s Head-Talk by the repetitive, nagging attack on who you are. Your self-respect and self-esteem can end up in the... Read More

Core Values

June 1st, 2006

How do you feel about these values and how does your partner. How can you help each other? Learning something new Staying in touch with your health challenges and successes Financial security, savings and retirement Family needs and time together Having your home the way you like it as far as decorating inside and outside Community service Feeling productive each day Friendships Spiritual practices Travel Entertainment weekly Children Stretching yourself to learn more about who you are and who you aren\’t. Who you might become? Desire to change bad habits Happiness Having fun ... Read More