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Empty Nester Springs into Something New

April 13th, 2007

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. – Marcel Proust During our third phone consultation, Kate was talking about how she was doing with her free time. She is single with two kids thousands of miles away and loosely holds the number 56. She couldn\’t see how to have chickens on her property. She couldn\’t figure out what to do with all the eggs if she did have chickens. Long story short and I imagine you saw this coming . . . drum roll for her . . . She hooked up with a neighbor that she never knew before. Chicks, eggs,... Read More

~Take the Empty Nest Quiz~

March 8th, 2007

“Even the most distressing situation can offer a glimmer of hope, an opportunity for self-respect.” — Dr. Gloria WilderBrathwaite, medical director of the D.C. Children\’s Health Project WHAT KIND OF EMPTY NESTER DO YOU THINK YOU WILL BE? Before the countdown to your kids leaving home, try this fun quiz to see how prepared you are for the empty nest. If you\’re already an empty nester, this quiz can help you gauge how you\’re doing. Choose your response in each of these scenarios, then add up your final score at the end. 1. You wake up in the morning and... Read More

Is Love Magical? You Bet!

March 6th, 2007

He likes to be on time. She\’s always late. She\’s a detail person. He sees the big picture. He takes the world as it comes. She needs control. She likes dinner at the table. He\’s a grazer. He loves to learn. She wants things as they are and as they have been and then they get married. Can they make it? We\’ll bet your knee-jerk answer was more than likely “No. They\’re too different.” Don\’t feel alone. You\’re right in there with most people who think that differences can be attractive, even exciting, but they don\’t make for a solid... Read More

Kids Aren\’t Home for Valentine\’s Day

February 5th, 2007

“We join spokes together in a wheel, but it is the center hole that makes the wagon move. We shape clay into a pot, But it is the emptiness inside That holds whatever we want. We hammer wood for a house, But it is the inner space That makes it livable. We work with being, But non-being is what we use.” –Tao Te Ching Empty nester parents remember cutting doilies into hearts; glue sticks on tables, making heart shaped mail bags with our kids to take to school so they can collect their valentines, and putting hearts all around the house when they were... Read More

“Trust the Rooster”

January 30th, 2007

It was the first night of our long awaited Baja Mexico vacation. We\’d had a great time in Todos Santos with Jim\’s brother Bill and his wife Kelly who took us to Miguel\’s for guacamole and nachos and then on to the famed Hotel California for a long, leisurely dinner. Now we were in bed, 10 pm Baja (Mountain) time. What appeared as a modest, casual little hotel on the web suddenly turned into a cacophony of yapping, snarling dogs serenaded by a cat in heat. Welcome to Mexico! The four-legged locals exhausted themselves around midnight and we finally got some sleep. But not... Read More

Networking in the Spotlight

January 10th, 2007

Most everyone in business talks about the importance of networking. But the real power and impact of how “meet and greet” really works usually remains a closely guarded secret. You\’ve no doubt attended a conference, training seminar, or even a singles dance and left wondering why the heck you bothered to comb your hair and wear your best shoes . . . right? If you\’re like most people, it\’s happened many, many times. But that\’s because you never understood what you were there to do. If it was a conference you “knew” you were to sit and listen... Read More

We All Have Flaws

January 10th, 2007

It is 2007. Do you dash, stroll, or crawl with changes you want to reach for this year? Some of your kids have gone back to school or home. Some have gotten on your nerves because they are still at home and doing it “their way.” Other parents are savoring the best- friend- feeling until the kids return to life without you. Empty Nest shows up, again, and the pressure of setting goals and getting it “right” this New Year weighs on your back or lifts you to “I\’m ready. I am sick of_________.” Doesn\’t it seem we are always trying to... Read More

Anticipating The Holidays

December 11th, 2006

May the holidays first bring comfort, connection, and kindness to you and then extend towards others. What helps me is: Doing what I love to do Pacing my energy so I am not depleted Lowering my expectations in order to be present in the moment. In my November article on this web, I talked about how to care for yourself and your kids who are coming to visit for the holidays. I also talked about what to do if you are alone which really does hurt. December is a month of celebrations from all types of spiritual traditions. In the hurriedness of work, shopping, cooking, decorating, mailing, emotions... Read More

“The Closer Your Success . . . ”

December 7th, 2006

Art Garfunkle ran it right up the charts, singing about how: “The closer your destination, the more you\’re slip-sliding away.” You know the feeling . . . You set your mind on a goal. Doesn\’t matter if it\’s a career ambition, getting a date with a particular gal at the gym, meeting a deadline which would produce more cash than you\’ve ever seen, getting your cousin to introduce you to her handsome neighbor, losing the last 5 pounds after taking off the first 30 . .. . You name it . . . we all know the experience . . . As Steven Pressfield says . . . “The... Read More

Empty Nest Support – November 2006 Newsletter

November 16th, 2006

The kids are coming home to fill the empty nest for Thanksgiving. Here is a reality check to make the weekend fun and connected: They aren\’t who they were when they left. They have gotten more autonomous. They want time with their friends. They don\’t want to plan far ahead. They haven\’t slept much. They ate lousy food. They have homework. They don\’t like a lot of questions. They love the comfort and memories of home sweet home. They love you deeply. You are cleaning, looking at recipes, marketing, cooking, and adding beauty to your home. You are so excited that... Read More