Jed Diamond, Ph.D. has been a health-care professional for the last 45 years. He is the author of 9 books, including Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places, Male Menopause, The Irritable Male Syndrome, and Mr. Mean: Saving Your Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome. He offers counseling to men, women, and couples in his office in California or by phone with people throughout the U.S. and around the world. To receive a Free E-book on Men’s Health and a free subscription to Jed’s e-newsletter go to www.MenAlive.com. When I began training as a psychotherapist in 1965, I wanted to save... Read More

Since we all have grown up in a society that confuses healthy love with “love” addiction, many of us find it difficult to know whether our feelings are based on healthy intimacy or addictive desire. Based on my work over the last 45 year\’s as a psychotherapist specializing in helping people develop and maintain healthy relationships, I offer the following comparison. Healthy Love develops after we feel secure. Addictive Love tries to create love even though we feel frightened and insecure. Healthy Love comes from feeling full. We overflow with love. Addictive Love is always trying... Read More

Somewhere around the time I turned 50, my sex life took a turn for the worse. My wife and I had always enjoyed each other, but now things seemed out of balance. It was like being an adolescent again. I didn\’t feel at home in my body, mind, or spirit. When we would kiss, our noses would get in the way. We both seemed awkward around each other. Worst of all, I was having what would euphemistically be called “erectile dysfunction.” I was terrified. This was before Viagra had come on the scene. My doctor suggested I have my testosterone levels checked. Long story, short, I did get... Read More

When a friend first told me about “Scribd” I didn\’t quite get it. Although I use the internet, mostly for research, reading, and e-mail, I\’m not very savvy about networking and “new technologies.” But when he told me you could easily upload just about anything—books, e-books, articles, research studies—to Scribd and sell them in the Scribd store, he got my attention. I\’m a writer, researcher, and psychotherapist and have been helping men and the women who love them for more than 40 years. I am founder of www.MenAlive.com, where I share information about male menopause,... Read More

3 Things You Must Do Now to Protect Yourself Shortly after The Irritable Male Syndrome was published in 2004, I began to get letters from women all over the world who recognized themselves and the men in their lives in the stories I recounted in the book. This is typical of many I received: “Last month a man came home from work with my husband’s face but he did not act at all like the man I married. I\’ve known this man for 30 years, married 22 of them and have never met this guy before. Angry, nasty, and cruel are just a few words to describe him. He used to be the most upbeat, happy... Read More

Millions of middle-aged men have used Viagra in order to improve erections and enhance their sex lives. Ever since the drug was first released in 1998 there has been talk about the possible benefits for women suffering from sexual dysfunction. Certainly Pfizer (and other pharmaceutical companies) would like to expand their sales to the other half of the human population. Once a prescription drug is approved for at least one indication, physicians are free to prescribe it for any other disorders or symptoms for which they believe it would be effective, a practice called off-label prescribing.... Read More

Future Shock: The New Dis-Ease of Our Time I still have my original copy, though it\’s falling apart. Most pages are covered with little stars with underlines to remind me of important things to remember. It was a mind-blowing book for me (I must admit that even as a 60s activist in Berkeley, books were much more dazzling, exciting, and mind expanding than any drugs that were available). The first line in the introduction grabbed me immediately and has held on to me for nearly 40 years. “This is a book about what happens to people when they are overwhelmed by change. It is about the... Read More

One of the most consistent responses I get from men and women was how much irritability, anger and sullen withdrawal was present in males particularly between the ages of 40 and 55. “It\’s like he\’s a different man,” one woman wrote to me. “He had always been kind, considerate and caring. Now he treats us all so meanly. I don\’t understand it.” “I love my wife, I really do,” a man in his 40s confided, “but she drives me up the wall. She wonders why I get so angry all the time. What does she expect when she keeps hitting me in the... Read More

After 44 years helping men and women achieve more satisfying and joyful relationships, I’ve accumulated some helpful wisdom. I’ve written about the 25 Most Important Things about Men and 25 Most Important Things about Sex, Love, and Marriage. Here’s some wisdom about women, sex, and love. 25. “You never lose by loving. You lose by holding back.” –Barbara De Angelis 24. “Woman the bowl, the urn, the cave, the musky jungle. We are the dark mysterium! We are hidden folds and primal wisdom and always, always, the womb, bearing life, releasing life, and then sucking it back in again,... Read More

As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been enlightening. I’d like to share some words of wisdom that have been helpful to us along the way. Here are the 25 most helpful things that wise men and women have shared on the subject of love, marriage, and relationship and how to have happy and long-lasting ones. Let’s start with number 25. 25. Once a woman has forgiven her man,... Read More