3 Things You Must Do Now to Protect Yourself Shortly after The Irritable Male Syndrome was published in 2004, I began to get letters from women all over the world who recognized themselves and the men in their lives in the stories I recounted in the book. This is typical of many I received: “Last month a man came home from work with my husband’s face but he did not act at all like the man I married. I\’ve known this man for 30 years, married 22 of them and have never met this guy before. Angry, nasty, and cruel are just a few words to describe him. He used to be the most upbeat, happy... Read More

Millions of middle-aged men have used Viagra in order to improve erections and enhance their sex lives. Ever since the drug was first released in 1998 there has been talk about the possible benefits for women suffering from sexual dysfunction. Certainly Pfizer (and other pharmaceutical companies) would like to expand their sales to the other half of the human population. Once a prescription drug is approved for at least one indication, physicians are free to prescribe it for any other disorders or symptoms for which they believe it would be effective, a practice called off-label prescribing.... Read More

One of the most consistent responses I get from men and women was how much irritability, anger and sullen withdrawal was present in males particularly between the ages of 40 and 55. “It\’s like he\’s a different man,” one woman wrote to me. “He had always been kind, considerate and caring. Now he treats us all so meanly. I don\’t understand it.” “I love my wife, I really do,” a man in his 40s confided, “but she drives me up the wall. She wonders why I get so angry all the time. What does she expect when she keeps hitting me in the... Read More

After 44 years helping men and women achieve more satisfying and joyful relationships, I’ve accumulated some helpful wisdom. I’ve written about the 25 Most Important Things about Men and 25 Most Important Things about Sex, Love, and Marriage. Here’s some wisdom about women, sex, and love. 25. “You never lose by loving. You lose by holding back.” –Barbara De Angelis 24. “Woman the bowl, the urn, the cave, the musky jungle. We are the dark mysterium! We are hidden folds and primal wisdom and always, always, the womb, bearing life, releasing life, and then sucking it back in again,... Read More

Future Shock: The New Dis-Ease of Our Time I still have my original copy, though it\’s falling apart. Most pages are covered with little stars with underlines to remind me of important things to remember. It was a mind-blowing book for me (I must admit that even as a 60s activist in Berkeley, books were much more dazzling, exciting, and mind expanding than any drugs that were available). The first line in the introduction grabbed me immediately and has held on to me for nearly 40 years. “This is a book about what happens to people when they are overwhelmed by change. It is about the... Read More

As a psychotherapist I have been helping people find, keep, and develop healthy loving relationships for more than 40 years now. Carlin and I have been married (third marriage for each of us) for 30 years now. It hasn’t always been easy but it has always been enlightening. I’d like to share some words of wisdom that have been helpful to us along the way. Here are the 25 most helpful things that wise men and women have shared on the subject of love, marriage, and relationship and how to have happy and long-lasting ones. Let’s start with number 25. 25. Once a woman has forgiven her man,... Read More

My father tried to commit suicide when I was five years old. He recovered, but my life was never the same. I went to medical school, then graduate school. For the last 44 years I have specialized in helping men and the women who love them. I think I\’ve been trying, on some level, to understand what happened to my father so that I can be a better father to my sons and daughter, a better husband to my wife, and a better friend to myself. My first book, Inside Out: Becoming My Own Man, was published in 1983. In the introduction I wrote, “The Women\’s Movement first helped me question... Read More

“Do whatever you can to get out of dollar denominated assets and do it quickly,” warned Michael Ruppert author of Crossing the Rubicon. “It is looking to me like the run on the dollar has begun in earnest. It is not too late to buy physical gold. That is what will shield you the best right now.” We now have a national debt exceeding $11 trillion and the budget deficit for 2009-2010 is expected to be over a trillion dollars. How long can we keep going into debt? How long can we base our future dreams on an ever expanding economy that is running up against the limits of a finite planet?... Read More

My men\’s group has been meeting regularly since 1979. We began meeting when we all lived in Marin County, California and felt the need for a supportive environment to discuss the changes going on in our lives. We\’re seven guys who now range in age from 61 to 71. During the last 30 years, two guys have dropped out and two guys have been added. The last “newcomer” joined the group 19 years ago. We now meet for a 5 day gathering four times a year. It\’s something that we all look forward to and never miss. We met recently in Seattle were T lives now and during our time together,... Read More

Depression is one of the most destructive diseases of modern life. According to Dr. Stephen S. Ilardi, author of The Depression Cure, “Depression is a devastating illness. It robs people of their energy, their sleep, their memory, their concentration, their vitality, their joy, their ability to love and work and play, and—sometimes—even their will to live.” Not only does depression take away our spiritual and emotional health, it also undermines our physical health. Recent research reported by Johns Hopkins Medical Center indicates depression increases the risk of heart disease and it... Read More