You Lost Your Marriage Not Your Life: How to Create the Life You Want – Your Way
Author: Barbara Miller
Reviewed by: Anne Holmes for the NABBW
Al and Tipper Gore are not the first Baby Boomers to divorce after a long marriage, and they will no doubt not be the last. A recent AARP story, written after their announcement, noted several reasons Boomers are divorcing with more frequency then our parents.
One of the most significant reasons, of course, is that we are living longer, and we aren’t like our parents and grandparents who chose to soldier on, even if they were very unhappy.
That said, should you find yourself in the midst of a mid-life divorce, especially one that is not of your choosing, you’ll want to have this book close at hand.
Miller begins the book with her own shocking story, telling of returning home from a Thanksgiving weekend visit to her ailing mother to find no husband, and a near empty house. Worse, all credit cards and bank accounts were closed. The final coup came when the process server knocked on the door only to thrust divorce papers into her totally unsuspecting hands.
Based on the her own story and those of the women Miller interviewed for her book, one thing that does seem unusual about the Gore divorce is that they called their decision “a mutual and mutually supportive decision that we have made together following a process of long and careful consideration.”
The second half of this book provides a path and a plan for coming out of a divorce successfully – hence the book’s title.
Miller makes good on the promise she offers on the book’s front cover: “I survived crushing change through divorce and found the strength to create a new life – my way, and so can you!”
Readers will learn how to:
- Release those self-defeating inner dialogues that compromise your life and keep you paralyzed with fear
- Rid yourself of any negative inner thoughts you may have carried with you since childhood, and which cripple your opportunities for personal growth and joy
- Enhance your self-image
- Take charge and find the confidence to go on triumphantly, living your life your own way
There’s a good list of cited works and recommended additional reading at the end of the book, as well.