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September 15th, 2006

I\’m sure many of you have heard the tragic story of Brooke Astor, the multimillionaire New York socialite who is alleged to have been mistreated by her son, who controls her $45 million portfolio. Obviously this case is making the headlines because of her celebrity and its easy – even comforting – to believe that this sort of abuse only happens when there are vast sums of money involved. Unfortunately, the reality is that elder abuse occurs in families of all races, backgrounds, nationalities and income groups. Sadder still, contrary to the popular belief that elder abusers are strangers,... Read More

How to Make – And Keep – Your Memories

August 1st, 2006

As a Generational Coach and because of the my mother\’s dementia, I\’m often asked by people who are concerned about their “intellectual pauses” if there\’s anything they can do to remember more, longer, and make their memories easier to access. Please know that I\’m not a “brain specialist”. Nothing written here should imply a diagnosis or a way to prevent Alzheimers or any of the dozen or so other types of dementia. However, based on information I\’ve learned through research, personal observation and experience, I say Yes! HOW WE MAKE MEMORIES The brain... Read More

6 Steps for Disbursing “Stuff” While Preserving Family Relationships

July 1st, 2006

One of the most difficult and emotional tasks a family faces whether because of a move or the death of loved one, is distributing the family possessions. If one person wants an item – no problem. But when more than one family member wants something, things can get very unpleasant very fast! Sadly, too many families find they\’ve accomplished the task but, in the process, create long-term, deeply held resentment which can destroy family relationships. How can you disburse family possessions in a way that preserves the future and the past? By being pro-active and making 6 preliminary decisions... Read More

6 Tips To Emptying Your Aging Loved One\’s House

June 1st, 2006

One of the most difficult jobs family members face when emptying out their aging loved one(s) house is how to get rid of all the “stuff”. This is especially difficult for family members who live at a distance and have to sort through a life time of belongings in a week or two of vacation time. If this is an issue you\’re facing, here are some suggestions to make it easier. Get An Appraisal: If you\’re afraid of getting rid of anything because it could be worth a million dollars, you may have the “Antiques Roadshow™ syndrome! Therefore, the first action you\’ll want to... Read More

Helping Your Parents Get Rid of “Stuff”

May 1st, 2006

Because of a crisis, my sisters and I had to move our mother into an assisted living which also meant emptying out her home. Unfortunately, as almost always happens when there\’s a crisis, the timing couldn\’t have been worse and, because of our work schedules, we had 1 week in which to do it!! While my parents were the most organized people you could imagine and my sister and I worked well together, one week wasn\’t nearly enough time to sort through the “stuff” my parents had accumulated throughout their 50 years of marriage and certainly not enough to make good decisions... Read More

Workplace Eldercare Programs – Getting the Support You Need

April 1st, 2006

It is estimated that 65% of the workforce cares for chronically ill or aging loved ones – a responsibility that often conflicts with work. Unfortunately, most employees are reluctant to mention their eldercare problems at work so they don\’t know what eldercare programs are available. As a result, utilization of eldercare programs is often as low as 1-2% – leaving many employers to believe that programs are not needed, causing some employers to reduce or limit the workplace eldercare options! How do you stop this downward spiral and get the support you need? Start by looking at what workplace... Read More

Welcome to the Sandwich Generation

March 1st, 2006

First we couldn\’t have any. Then we could have it all. Then we realized we didn\’t want it all. So how come we\’re still doing it all – and feeling guilty about it to boot!? Welcome to the “Sandwich Generation”! So much has been written lately about the “Sandwich Generation” – those caring for both their children and their aging parents. It\’s an important subject, especially because, while Baby Boomer men are also members of the sandwich generation, the overwhelming impact is on Baby Boomer women. Why are women bearing the brunt of eldercare? Because we\’re... Read More

Eldercare and the Home Office: Making it Work

February 1st, 2006

Now, after “only” 35-40 years, due to the sheer quantity of working women; more men speaking out about and being involved in childcare responsibilities; more men in senior positions with families and working wives; and more women in senior positions, accommodating childcare is pretty much “socially acceptable”. TO MINIMIZE THE IMPACT OF ELDERCARE, more and more Baby Boomer women are choosing to work from home. It sounds like an obvious and easy solution and, for many it is. However, there are factors that can blur the lines between your work and eldercare responsibilities that you will... Read More

How to Avoid the “Vicky-D Iceberg”

January 1st, 2006

In “De-Mystifying Vicky-D\’s” in the October NABBW newsletter, you learned how the Vicky-D\’s\’ generational experiences, attitudes and values created their expectations today. However, generational values and attitudes are only part of the equation. As you might imagine, for Vicky-D\’s facing major life issues such as old age, declining health, death of a spouse and/or friends, fear of being destitute and homeless, fear of losing independence and control, or the fear of dependency – or not having anyone to depend on, this an extremely emotional time. Emotions... Read More

Tips for Getting Eldercare – And Your Life – Under Control

December 1st, 2005

Because eldercare is often unexpected, intermittent (at least initially), and always unpredictable, few of us realize the time and toll it\’s taking on us personally in terms of money, relationships, and peace of mind – to mention nothing of our sanity! It\’s also difficult to accurately predict the true length of our commitment. In fact, according to the 1999 MetLife Mature Market Institute Study, a majority of those anticipating 1 to 2 years of caregiving actually spent 4 or more years providing care. Add to that all the complicated bureaucratic and legal restrictions, such as... Read More