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The Fight for Independence – Hiring a Caregiver

December 28th, 2006

One of the greatest fears of older adults is the loss in independence. That loss is felt acutely when it translates into the need for institutional living. Even the most luxurious congregant living facility isn\’t the same as your own home. “Aging in place” is the chief desire of our aging parents, but for some, it just may not be possible without assistance. It is not uncommon for an ailing, frail adult to be cared for by their aging frail spouse, who will soon become ailing as well from the stress and demands of caregiving. Frail seniors who will be facing old age alone may... Read More

Menopause and Irregular Menstrual Cycles: Rising Health Problems

December 13th, 2006

Periods, or menstrual cycles, typically start to change long before menstruation finally stops. Irregular menstrual cycles are a cause of concern for a lot of women. The changes in menstrual cycles vary. Some women have their menses occurring like clockwork their entire lives, while others discover that they can no longer predict their period date. Still others, who have always had irregular periods, find that their periods have started occurring in a timely pattern. Mostly the time between periods lengthens or shortens. Many women see similarities between their menstrual cycles during their forties... Read More

Born to Die

December 13th, 2006

The other night I heard the song by Steppenwolf, Born to Be Wild. It brought back memories of Junior High and High School – that song had legs! When it came on the radio, my friends and I turned the volume up, and da-da-da\’d through the verses, and on the chorus belted out, “Born to be wi-l-d,” and played air guitar or in my case, drums. Oh, were we wild. Born to be wild. Born to — you fill in the blank. Sometimes we watch sports and think someone like Michael Jordan was born to play basketball. As a wee child, Julie Andrews opened her mouth, and a voice with a four-octave... Read More

Anticipating The Holidays

December 11th, 2006

May the holidays first bring comfort, connection, and kindness to you and then extend towards others. What helps me is: Doing what I love to do Pacing my energy so I am not depleted Lowering my expectations in order to be present in the moment. In my November article on this web, I talked about how to care for yourself and your kids who are coming to visit for the holidays. I also talked about what to do if you are alone which really does hurt. December is a month of celebrations from all types of spiritual traditions. In the hurriedness of work, shopping, cooking, decorating, mailing, emotions... Read More

How to Make the Holidays Better for Your Aging Loved One(s), Your Family, and You!

December 11th, 2006

I\’ve always loved the holidays – the gathering of family and friends, the traditions, the presents! But after my father died and my mother\’s dementia made it necessary for her to move into an assisted living community and then a nursing home, my holidays changed dramatically. Though initially difficult and emotional, I found that by changing my mindset (looking at it as creating new “traditions” rather than dwelling on how things “used to be”) and some advanced planning, the “new” holidays have created some good memories, too. And I felt... Read More

I\’m Dreamin\’ of a Light Christmas!

December 11th, 2006

One of my closest and dearest friends told me something yesterday that gave me food for thought. She said this year they\’re having a “light” instead of “white” Christmas. In other words, less is more. I thought to myself, “Now there\’s a plan! This is a woman after my own, disorganized heart.” Then again, I had to admit that this same woman is one of the most organized people alive. She knows all of her children\’s names, birthdates, and even her hubby\’s golf handicap. I didn\’t even know he was disabled. When someone asked... Read More

Supporting Ourselves

December 7th, 2006

…by Prill Boyle I don\’t know about you, but I need all the support I can get-especially when I\’m taking a risk. Over the years, my girlfriends and I have endlessly encouraged each other. But as I was gearing up to launch my first book a few years ago, I needed the support to be both more specific and more structured. So even though I\’m not much of a joiner, when my headshot photographer Suzanne Sheridan suggested in the fall of 2003 that we form a Creative Women\’s Business Group with two other local women, I thought to myself, why not? The four of us have been... Read More

“Ho Ho Hold On.”

December 7th, 2006

…by Julie Clark Robinson   “On with the dance! Let joy be unconfined..” -Lord Byron             I won\’t do it this year. I\’ll not get myself worked up in a tizzy all in the name of providing a memorable Christmas for my family. I\’ll keep the gifts under control, and the trimmings and menus and parties and everything else that lands me in bed with the flu every year by New Year\’s Eve.             I can\’t even believe it\’s me who is saying these things. What happened to that bright-eyed young woman whose heart... Read More

“The Closer Your Success . . . ”

December 7th, 2006

Art Garfunkle ran it right up the charts, singing about how: “The closer your destination, the more you\’re slip-sliding away.” You know the feeling . . . You set your mind on a goal. Doesn\’t matter if it\’s a career ambition, getting a date with a particular gal at the gym, meeting a deadline which would produce more cash than you\’ve ever seen, getting your cousin to introduce you to her handsome neighbor, losing the last 5 pounds after taking off the first 30 . .. . You name it . . . we all know the experience . . . As Steven Pressfield says . . . “The... Read More


December 7th, 2006

He was concerned with the direction a decision was leaning, Jon said on his voice mail. Could I meet him for lunch in the cafeteria before Friday\’s meeting to talk it through? As peer managers involved in policy implementation, our departments would be impacted by any direction taken. Friday\’s meeting was with the decision makers; a discussion of pluses, minuses, timetables and resources needed for three options under consideration. Over lunch, we discovered our alignment. Option one required mandatory overtime, organizational changes and significant resources to implement. I felt... Read More