Every so often, someone says something to me about my newly found thinness that is upsetting and sends me reeling. (Yes, it\’s been six years since I permanently removed over 50 pounds, but it still feels newly found. Until I have lived more years thin than fat, I shall consider myself newly thin.)

Attacks have been made on my weigh-of-life – some critical of my eating style, some critical of my tight jeans, some lash out over my arched eyebrows.

When we change in any way, shape or form, it sometimes upsets other people\’s apple carts. They are unnerved. It\’s important to remember that it\’s not about us; it\’s about them and there is no truth to what they are saying.

The attacker is more than likely overcome by a flurry of uncomfortable feelings. If they feel threatened by your new lifestyle, your new sveltness, your beauty, your calm, your fabulous hair … anything … they may lash out. Their emotions are spilling out and over.

What to do?

* Stay cool man, real cool. – No point in escalating the negative vibes.

* Remember – it\’s not about you. You are not responsible for the attacker\’s issues.

* Do NOT counter attack. If you feel compelled to say something, simply express how you felt when they said what they said. You do not want to escalate the \’war.\’

* Take in a deep breath.

* Smile and walk away.

You cannot control other people\’s actions, but you can control your own.

How do you stay cool? Write me.

Janice Taylor, is a Weight Loss Coach and Certified Hypnotist. She is the author of Our Lady of Weight Loss: Miraculous and Motivational Musings from the Patron Saint of Permanent Fat Removal and creator of the popular e-newsletter Kick in the Tush Club.