Walk (in Shoes) Like a Man

By Leigh Anne Jasheway
NABBW’s Boomer Humor Associate

According to a Home Shopping Network pitchwoman (whom I only saw accidentally when one of my dogs rolled over on the remote and changed from the highfalutin PBS pledge drive I was watching), “Comfortable shoes are back!”

Can I get a low five?

Of course, the spokesperson was talking to women because most men are too smart to ever stick their tootsies in a six-inch stiletto heel with a toebox meant for a hamster’s foot, not a human’s.

Given the choice between painful footwear and, say, getting their chests waxed, guys will just head to the kitchen and grab a beer.

But now, apparently the gods of foot fashion have decided that we women can slip on our Crocs, our sneakers, and our Dansko clogs, kick up our not-so-swollen feet and relax with a brewsky too.

[[[1]]]Somehow, I don’t think it’s going to be that easy.

After all, the Sex and the City girls spent seven years and two full-length movies trying to convince women everywhere that when having to choose between paying the rent and buying a pair of heels that can only be worn while sitting on a memory foam bed and chewing on an Oxycontin, the clear choice is always the shoes.

  • What would happen, for example, if bank employees could no longer devise betting pools for which Hollywood starlet or pop star would trip first on her way up the steps to receive an Oscar or a Grammy?
  • How are we going to get our laughs on Monday morning without regaling each other about stories about how so-and-so almost fell flat on her face because her heel caught in the hem of her 4-inch-too-long gown as she walked the red carpet right as Joan Rivers stuck a microphone in her face asking her who she was wearing?
  • How would Lady Gaga get attention if she greeted her fans (aka, the Little Monsters) at eye level instead of while towering above them?

fashion heels 4Perhaps what the HSN spokeswoman meant was that “average” women, women who don’t have to make an impression in the harsh spotlight, can start treating their feet better, but that any woman who is or aspires to be famous, rich, or a Kardashian must continue not only walking on training stilts, but must do so while freshly waxed down there and sporting a diamond engagement ring big enough to precariously shift her center of balance to the left so that she must expend all her energy not to simply walk around in circles like a drunken circus performer. lady gaga shoes

Dr. Oz has tried to convince women that really high heels not only cause foot problems such as bunions, shortening of the Achilles tendon, plantar fasciitis, and attracting random foot fetishists in the subway, but they also can cause knee, hip, and back problems.

However, if you’ve ever watched his female guest experts, even those recruited to talk about the evils of uncomfortable shoes, they always arrive teetering like a Flying Wallenda on a tightrope over the Grand Canyon, but with much more pained expressions on their faces.

Eventually, these women may remove their shoes and cradle their aching feet in their hands, but they feel that to be taken seriously as a woman, they cannot pad out on stage in ballet flats or bunny slippers.

[[[4]]]Comfortable shoes may be making a return engagement, but there are still commercials for online stores such as Shoedazzle that show hundreds of shoe choices—red, white, leopard print with pink zippers on the sides, studded, zebra-striped, green with goldfish in the heels—every night on TV.

All the candy-like shoe confections have heels that could easily serve as a weapon in a back alley street fight. Sneakers and flip flops and walking shoes seem to come in just a few boring color choices and never with live animal options.

Perhaps it all comes down to this: If you are the type of woman for whom it is important that your ass remain five to six inches higher than its usual location at all times except when you are lying down or repairing a spacecraft thousands of miles from the planet, and if you are also the type of woman for whom regular visits to podiatrists, orthopedic surgeons, acupuncturists, bunion removal specialists, toe waxers, mani-pedi providers, and primal scream therapists is affordable and part of your daily schedule, painful shoes it is.Still Life with a keg of beer and draft beer by the glass.

If, on the other hand, you are the type of woman who expects to be able to walk across a street without breaking an ankle, you now have more comfy choices.

Join me as we grab a beer together and take a load off.

Leigh Anne Jasheway, M.P.H. is a stress management and humor expert who helps women and men manage stress, embrace change, and become healthier by learning to lighten up. She speaks at 50-60 conferences and workshops every year and has been a national Speaking of Women’s Health and Healthy Woman keynoter. She’s a member of the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor (AATH). Learn more about her at her website. Leigh Anne has authored two books: “Date Me Date My Dog” and  “Confessions of a Semi-Natural Woman(a collection of 99 of her funniest humor columns from the past ten’ish years – including the one that won the Erma Bombeck Humor Writing Competition.) Learn more about them on her website:  AccidentalComic.com.  She also has a new blog. Of if she says, If you go there and like what you see, you can subscribe by clicking the subscribe button (who knew?)”

Leigh Anne Jasheway, M.P.H. is a stress management and humor expert who helps women and men manage stress, embrace change, and become healthier by learning to lighten up. She speaks at 50-60 conferences and workshops every year and has been a national Speaking of Women's Health and Healthy Woman keynoter. She's a member of the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor (AATH)