Building Your Communication Toolbox By Dr. Dorree Lynn, Ph.D. NABBW’s Boomer Women\’s Sexuality Expert Honest and effective communication takes tools, skills, and practice. Here are some ways to let the things you say nurture and grow your relationship. Use  “I”  statements.  Take ownership of your feelings and thoughts.  State your personal beliefs and feelings clearly and plainly. For example, instead of “You are so loud and annoying. Why do you keep bothering me?” you can say “I felt scared when you slammed the door. I would really like it if you could please be gentler... Read More