Recently, while standing in a crowded, noisy hallway, someone asked me THE question: “How can I persuade my aging loved one(s) to willingly do something they don\’t want to do, even though it\’s in their best interest?” As I began to answer, the whole area fell silent and everyone leaned in to hear my answer. […]
I\’m sure many of you have heard the tragic story of Brooke Astor, the multimillionaire New York socialite who is alleged to have been mistreated by her son, who controls her $45 million portfolio. Obviously this case is making the headlines because of her celebrity and its easy – even comforting – to believe that […]
As a Generational Coach and because of the my mother\’s dementia, I\’m often asked by people who are concerned about their “intellectual pauses” if there\’s anything they can do to remember more, longer, and make their memories easier to access. Please know that I\’m not a “brain specialist”. Nothing written here should imply a diagnosis […]
One of the most difficult and emotional tasks a family faces whether because of a move or the death of loved one, is distributing the family possessions. If one person wants an item – no problem. But when more than one family member wants something, things can get very unpleasant very fast! Sadly, too many […]
One of the most difficult jobs family members face when emptying out their aging loved one(s) house is how to get rid of all the “stuff”. This is especially difficult for family members who live at a distance and have to sort through a life time of belongings in a week or two of vacation […]
Because of a crisis, my sisters and I had to move our mother into an assisted living which also meant emptying out her home. Unfortunately, as almost always happens when there\’s a crisis, the timing couldn\’t have been worse and, because of our work schedules, we had 1 week in which to do it!! While […]
It is estimated that 65% of the workforce cares for chronically ill or aging loved ones – a responsibility that often conflicts with work. Unfortunately, most employees are reluctant to mention their eldercare problems at work so they don\’t know what eldercare programs are available. As a result, utilization of eldercare programs is often as […]
First we couldn\’t have any. Then we could have it all. Then we realized we didn\’t want it all. So how come we\’re still doing it all – and feeling guilty about it to boot!? Welcome to the “Sandwich Generation”! So much has been written lately about the “Sandwich Generation” – those caring for both […]
Now, after “only” 35-40 years, due to the sheer quantity of working women; more men speaking out about and being involved in childcare responsibilities; more men in senior positions with families and working wives; and more women in senior positions, accommodating childcare is pretty much “socially acceptable”. TO MINIMIZE THE IMPACT OF ELDERCARE, more and […]
In “De-Mystifying Vicky-D\’s” in the October NABBW newsletter, you learned how the Vicky-D\’s\’ generational experiences, attitudes and values created their expectations today. However, generational values and attitudes are only part of the equation. As you might imagine, for Vicky-D\’s facing major life issues such as old age, declining health, death of a spouse and/or friends, […]
