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By Judith Sherven, PhD NABBW’s Associate for Healthy Relationships Hear Yea! Hear Yea! Let it be known across the land: Receiving Praise and Compliments for Your Excellence Does NOT Make You Big-…By Judith Sherven, P…By Judith Sherven, PhD NABBW’s Associate for Healthy Relationships Hear Yea! Hear Yea! Let it be known across the land: Receiving Praise and Compliments for Your Excellence Does NOT Make You Big-headed! Yet, in a recent workshop "Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous: It’s Time To Shatter Your Inner Glass Ceiling" (which my husband Jim Sniechowski, PhD and I present quite often as a career building and leadership boosting opportunity for corporate audiences) predictably some of the main reasons people gave about their difficulty receiving acknowledgment of their excellence were: I…
Judith Sherven
March 31, 2015
By Judith Scherven, Ph.D.NABBW’s Associate for Healthy Relationships Here we are at the end of 2014, getting ready for a new year in just a few days. For many people it will be “business as usu…By Judith Scherven, …By Judith Scherven, Ph.D.NABBW’s Associate for Healthy Relationships Here we are at the end of 2014, getting ready for a new year in just a few days. For many people it will be “business as usual.” No point in getting stressed out with ideas of larger success. No point in reaching beyond what’s already working. And no point in ruffling the egos of colleagues or competitors. And that’s just fine, if it’s fine with you. BUT if it’s not, if you want to use this coming year to seriously advance your home life or your career, then here’s a delicious challenge for you: “What…
Judith Sherven
December 30, 2014
Are You Guilty of Taking Your Excellence For Granted? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D.NABBW's Associate for Healthy Relationships Perhaps... You did well in school with practically no effort. You’ve…Are You Guilty of Ta…Are You Guilty of Taking Your Excellence For Granted? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D.NABBW's Associate for Healthy Relationships Perhaps... You did well in school with practically no effort. You’ve always been well-liked, even in grammar school. You’ve aced every employment interview you’ve ever had. Your people skills feel like second nature and people have always come to you for help. You receive praise from your manager but it doesn’t mean much because you’ve always been able to perform well. You enjoy your work because using your best skills is a real pleasure so you don…
Judith Sherven
March 18, 2014
What Inspires Me: Understanding The Anxiety-Depression Swing By Judith Sherven, Ph.D.NABBW's Healthy Relationships AssociateWhen I was early on in my private practice as a clinical psychologist some …What Inspires Me: Un…What Inspires Me: Understanding The Anxiety-Depression Swing By Judith Sherven, Ph.D.NABBW's Healthy Relationships AssociateWhen I was early on in my private practice as a clinical psychologist some 30 years ago, I kept noticing how so many of my clients suffered from a pattern of anxiety as they pursued a goal that they desired (their frustration with not achieving the goal was usually the reason they had come to me for help in the first place). Yet, after making some minor progress they would reel back from the anxiety and soon they would fall into a nagging depression. These weren’t t…
Judith Sherven
February 22, 2014
As It Does Every Year, The Year-End Holiday Season Offers Us An Opportunity to Recognize and Celebrate The Magic Of Our Cultural and Religious Differences. Why Not Relish It? By Judith Sherven, Ph.…As It Does Every Yea…As It Does Every Year, The Year-End Holiday Season Offers Us An Opportunity to Recognize and Celebrate The Magic Of Our Cultural and Religious Differences. Why Not Relish It? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert The year\'s fourth quarter -- the period from October through the first of the next year -- is a wonderful time of the year. There are a number of major holidays of course. But more importantly, these events give us a huge opportunity to recognize and celebrate the magic of the global "melting pot" in which we live and work. For example, consider how …
Judith Sherven
December 1, 2013
Looking for Something to Do Together? How About Taking Ballroom Dance Lessons! (No Worries About "So You Think You Can Dance?" The Answer Is: "Yes, You Can!") By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s He…Looking for Somethin…Looking for Something to Do Together? How About Taking Ballroom Dance Lessons! (No Worries About "So You Think You Can Dance?" The Answer Is: "Yes, You Can!") By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW’s Healthy Relationships Expert If hot and sandy activities like swimming, snorkeling, scuba diving, and surfboarding are not your thing, but you want the pleasure of moving your body—get out and learn to dance. Even if you already enjoy dancing, like my husband Jim Sniechowski, PhD and I do, that doesn’t mean there isn’t more fun to be had. We do a mean "get down and dirty" to James …
Judith Sherven
November 7, 2013
12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Perhaps you\'re in a long-term relationship and the joy is gone. You don\'t …12 Secrets To Great …12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Perhaps you\'re in a long-term relationship and the joy is gone. You don\'t want to be with anyone else but you wish it could be more fun, more exciting. Do you miss when you were younger and felt more comfortable being silly and playful as a form of real romance? Did you get married and decide you had to act like "grown-ups" and a lot of the fun went with it? Or have you always thought you needed to be serious in matters of love? Maybe you’re single and you imagin…
Judith Sherven
September 24, 2012
12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert You can have The New Intimacy in your life. And, it\'s easier than you think…12 Secrets To Great …12 Secrets To Great Romance For The Rest Of Your Life By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert You can have The New Intimacy in your life. And, it\'s easier than you think! All you have to do is begin practicing the first of these ten steps. When you feel comfortable, add the next one that attracts you most. Before long you\'ll notice a difference in your confidence, self-respect, your capacity to give and receive love and, of course, the intimacy that makes it all worthwhile. See what magic you create! Step 1: ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS. Do you have trouble accept…
Judith Sherven
June 4, 2012
Can You Be Loved for Being Different? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Before we get into what it means to be loved for being different in your wisdom-elder years,…Can You Be Loved for…Can You Be Loved for Being Different? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Before we get into what it means to be loved for being different in your wisdom-elder years, we want to take you on a bit of a vision quest. When you were growing up what did you learn about how you were supposed to think about and treat people who were different from you and your family? What did your family say? How about your friends? Neighbors? What were the messages you received either openly or by suggestion? You may not have an answer right off, because this is not a question …
Judith Sherven
July 7, 2011
Conflicts Can Be... Romantic? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacation…Conflicts Can Be... …Conflicts Can Be... Romantic? By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting The "Right Way" to Do Things, "You Just Don\'t Get It" and on and on . . . And whether you’ve been together for years and years, or you’ve become a couple just recently, no doubt both of you have your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. Add to that the entrenched ideas about “reality” that …
Judith Sherven
May 13, 2011
A Simple Prayer By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert I’ve been reading a remarkable and lovely book Love Thyself: The Message From Water III written by doctor of alt…A Simple Prayer By …A Simple Prayer By Judith Sherven, Ph.D. NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert I’ve been reading a remarkable and lovely book Love Thyself: The Message From Water III written by doctor of alternative medicine and international authority on micro-cluster water Masaru Emoto. You may have followed Emoto’s exploration and photographic documentation of how emotions effect frozen water crystals, as he has written several well-received books on the topic. If not, it’s important that you understand that his work is a vivid reflection of the power of your words and emotions to e…
Judith Sherven
April 5, 2011
Perfecting Your Genius... By Judith Sherven NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Perfecting your genius, magnifying your excellence... It\'s all the same thing! When my brother recently sen…Perfecting Your Geni…Perfecting Your Genius... By Judith Sherven NABBW's Healthy Relationships Expert Perfecting your genius, magnifying your excellence... It\'s all the same thing! When my brother recently sent me this video of Larry Griswald on the Frank Sinatra Show - from way back in 1951 - I just knew I had to share it with you! This guy is a true athlete and comedian. How many hits & bruises did he take in perfecting the act? Just for the record, Larry Griswald was co-inventor of the trampoline, a comedian, and a world class swimmer and diver. Enjoy! And as you do, consider h…
Judith Sherven
January 10, 2011
The first blush of love is intoxicating. Every touch, every kiss, every thought of one another is enough to quicken your heart and thrill your spirit. You are perfect for one another. Or so it seems a…The first blush of l…The first blush of love is intoxicating. Every touch, every kiss, every thought of one another is enough to quicken your heart and thrill your spirit. You are perfect for one another. Or so it seems at the beginning. Then things change. Differences show up. Instead of two-who-have-become-as-one, you feel separate and you\'re not sure the other one is somebody you even like anymore. Your relationship has entered into the clash of differences. Why does that happen? Because love changes. It cannot stay static. The future of what you will have together will grow out of the deeper love that awa…
Judith Sherven
August 22, 2010
Romantic fantasies, like drugs and alcohol, offer the hope of getting what you believe you can\'t get on your own. Also like drugs, they are temporary and never ultimately satisfying. When the spell d…Romantic fantasies, …Romantic fantasies, like drugs and alcohol, offer the hope of getting what you believe you can\'t get on your own. Also like drugs, they are temporary and never ultimately satisfying. When the spell dissolves, you\'re lost in the pit of heartbreak, shortchanged by life yet again. On the other hand, when fantasy is not a substitute for reality, it can be a playful source of pleasure. You can slip beyond the limits of daily life and play in a make-believe world. You get to go anywhere, be anyone and experience anything you like. However, enjoying romantic fantasies is one thing. Preferr…
Judith Sherven
July 12, 2010
When you practice conscious dating, you practice the emotional skills required for a happy marriage. And being curious about each other is central to real connection and real romance. So her…When you practice co…When you practice conscious dating, you practice the emotional skills required for a happy marriage. And being curious about each other is central to real connection and real romance. So here are just a few tips to help you be a smart dater, a conscious dater: Throughout the day, keep a list of all you\'d like to know about your lover. Make a time in the evening, or when it\'s convenient, to ask your questions and share the answers with as much trust and openness as you can. For example, find out more about each other\'s childhoods and dating fears. Ask for specific reasons…
Judith Sherven
June 11, 2010
Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Chores, Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations, Disciplining the Children, Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting, Th…Romantic conflicts a…Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Chores, Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations, Disciplining the Children, Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting, The "Right Way" to Do Things, "You Just Don\'t Get It," and on and on . . . And you\'ve got your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. That\'s why we offer 5 keys to a romantic outcome, when you know how to resolve your conflicts in a way that benefits each of you, and your relationship. 1) You Are Both Right: each of you brings some piece of the truth abo…
Judith Sherven
May 12, 2010
Perhaps even more important for Boomers -- what is it that makes dating such a jumbled mess of painful mistakes? Certainly not a lack of trying. That\'s far from the truth. And it\'s not beca…Perhaps even more im…Perhaps even more important for Boomers -- what is it that makes dating such a jumbled mess of painful mistakes? Certainly not a lack of trying. That\'s far from the truth. And it\'s not because you\'re desperate. If that was true you would have married long ago . . . even if it was your first or fourth, you would have settled for the safety of marriage. Instead you continue to search for that person who fits what you\'re looking for, who makes sense emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and sexually. So how do you find him? How do you find her? The truth is that succ…
Judith Sherven
April 12, 2010
Now that we\'re in Engagement Season – from Thanksgiving through Valentine\'s Day - if you\'re planning on “popping” or “answering” THE QUESTION you\'ll want to make the most of this li…Now that we\'re in E…Now that we\'re in Engagement Season – from Thanksgiving through Valentine\'s Day - if you\'re planning on “popping” or “answering” THE QUESTION you\'ll want to make the most of this life changing moment. So remember . . . Your engagement is a time of great excitement, and all to often the burden and frustration of stress. Yet if you follow these helpful Do\'s and Don\'ts you\'ll enjoy sharing romance and joy as well as the wedding planning itself. And please pass this along to anyone who is engaged or considering it. Do\'s Talk about getting married bef…
Judith Sherven
February 12, 2010
