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To spank or not to spank your grandchild – Does force send the wrong message?

July 7th, 2010

By: Dr. Lillian Carson Reprinted with permission by GRAND Magazine Q. Lately my 4-year old grandson refuses to do what I ask. I find myself losing my temper and giving him a good spanking. I spanked my kids, and they’ve grown up okay. His parents don’t like spanking. Who’s right? Spanking Nana A. Your spanking probably subdues your grandson but misses an opportunity to help him learn self control, responsibility and the consequences of his actions. A child’s behavior is his language, the way he expresses himself. Ask yourself what he’s telling you. Are you expecting too much for his... Read More

Empty Nesters And Boomers, How Are You With Your Adult Children?

June 11th, 2010

College is over. High school is over. Faded memories for everyone. Summer weddings and new families joining. Boot camp and service. Parents are asking me, now what? How do I have a good summer with my adult children and enjoy it when I know they will leave? Who am I? Transitions will never end, so don\’t you think it helps to practice enjoying the life you have now? When you jump ahead what value is given to you? Does it help you build a plan? Does it ask you how you are doing with trusting yourself and your adult children? Are you good at asking for help? Are the feelings of sadness appearing... Read More

Get to know your grandkids

June 11th, 2010

By: Andy Nibley Reprinted with permission by GRAND Magazine In an attempt to better understand my grandkids, I have bitten the bullet and gone where I never thought I would ever go—into the belly of the Internet beast, at least that part of the Internet beast where the young ones go. I\’m talking about the latest Internet rage; social media networks like MySpace and Facebook, YouTube, etc., online worlds where my grandchildren and millions like them spend countless hours meeting and interacting with their peers. And I\’ve got to tell you something. These sites are actually fun—a... Read More

Conscious Curiosity is Key to Dating Success

June 11th, 2010

When you practice conscious dating, you practice the emotional skills required for a happy marriage. And being curious about each other is central to real connection and real romance. So here are just a few tips to help you be a smart dater, a conscious dater: Throughout the day, keep a list of all you\’d like to know about your lover. Make a time in the evening, or when it\’s convenient, to ask your questions and share the answers with as much trust and openness as you can. For example, find out more about each other\’s childhoods and dating fears. Ask for specific reasons... Read More

Conflicts can be Romantic?

May 12th, 2010

Romantic conflicts are as common as . . . Chores, Money, Sex, In-laws, Holidays, Feeling Ignored, Vacations, Disciplining the Children, Enough Time Together, Lack of Listening, Dirty Fighting, The “Right Way” to Do Things, “You Just Don\’t Get It,” and on and on . . . And you\’ve got your own unique trouble spots that make conflicts even more confusing. That\’s why we offer 5 keys to a romantic outcome, when you know how to resolve your conflicts in a way that benefits each of you, and your relationship. 1) You Are Both Right: each of you brings some... Read More

College Grads Thinking of Moving Home

May 12th, 2010

Empty Nesters and their chicks are sitting on a fence. No one really knows what will happen in regards to the job market or how long they will fluff their nest, again. It is not looking good for some grads and for others; they are living their dream launch of the paycheck. They might have four roomies, but they aren\’t coming home. Key, as you know, is to communicate feelings and thoughts: You must be so disappointed that you worked so hard and can\’t make enough money to have your own place. Dad and I are thinking the way to share the space and responsibilities are to…… and then... Read More

It\’s All About Connection . . . OR NOT!

April 12th, 2010

Perhaps even more important for Boomers — what is it that makes dating such a jumbled mess of painful mistakes? Certainly not a lack of trying. That\’s far from the truth. And it\’s not because you\’re desperate. If that was true you would have married long ago . . . even if it was your first or fourth, you would have settled for the safety of marriage. Instead you continue to search for that person who fits what you\’re looking for, who makes sense emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and sexually. So how do you find him? How do you find her? The truth... Read More

Boomers and Empty Nesters, How Do You Begin?

April 12th, 2010

Life changes whether expected or planned. Starting over is complex. What I hear over and over is, “I just need someone who gets what I am going through right now.” The reason I launched Empty Nest Support Services is because I did not want anyone to go through major life transitions alone. I have been through a list of them, including empty nest, illness, loss of loved ones, divorce, financial challenges, re-locating, career change in my fifties, re-marriage, loss of my best friend and more. I am passionate about passing on what I learned in order to help others know this is normal and there... Read More

Engagement Tips for the Smart Bride and Groom

February 12th, 2010

Now that we\’re in Engagement Season – from Thanksgiving through Valentine\’s Day – if you\’re planning on “popping” or “answering” THE QUESTION you\’ll want to make the most of this life changing moment. So remember . . . Your engagement is a time of great excitement, and all to often the burden and frustration of stress. Yet if you follow these helpful Do\’s and Don\’ts you\’ll enjoy sharing romance and joy as well as the wedding planning itself. And please pass this along to anyone who is engaged or considering it. Do\’s Talk... Read More

Workin\’ it Out — Together

January 14th, 2010

In the early days of love, it all seems so bliss filled and romantic — and it feels like it will last forever. Then you settle down, get married, create a home, have kids and……where did the magic go!? There\’s so much to do, the errands never end, the house always needs work, the kids are demanding, and your love seems to have slipped away. Or has it? You wish you felt more connected. You wish it were more like it was in the beginning when you couldn\’t get enough of being together. And perhaps you feel overburdened and lonely doing the chores and making a living... Read More