In the early days of love, it all seems so bliss filled and romantic — and it feels like it will last forever.

Then you settle down, get married, create a home, have kids and……where did the magic go!? There\’s so much to do, the errands never end, the house always needs work, the kids are demanding, and your love seems to have slipped away. Or has it?

You wish you felt more connected. You wish it were more like it was in the beginning when you couldn\’t get enough of being together. And perhaps you feel overburdened and lonely doing the chores and making a living and taking care of the kids and…..

Well, please be kind to yourself, your partner and your relationship and check to see if you both feel the same way. Chances are you do. And chances are really good that because you\’ve cared enough to ask, this kindness will open new possibilities for deciding to do more of the daily family maintenance and caretaking–together!

Sure, you may have different schedules. But surely you can find some time when you BOTH fold the laundry (while watching TV, perhaps!), pick out a new paint color for the bathroom (even if one of you has to bring home a bunch of swatches from the home deco store and look them over late at night) or take the kids to the birthday party together (even if you have to forego a golf game or shopping trip just this once).

You may be thinking, big deal; it\’s still a chore to do that stuff. Yes, that\’s true is you only hold on to a worker-bee attitude. But if you approach these tasks as ways to be kind and make life more enjoyable, then you will be well on your way to finding the daily romance in workin\’ it out together.

Judith: Even if we seldom have company that will be shown around our house (meaning they get to see our bedroom on the second floor), we both make the bed together nearly every morning. We\’ve remarked on how much this mundane kindness reminds us of our care for each other and for our home.

Jim: Frequently one of us washes the dishes after dinner and the other dries. The tasks may be menial but the bonding of consciously doing them together is revitalizing and endearing — while making the work more fun!

Find just one thing you typically do alone and figure out how to make it a form of daily kindness to yourselves and to your relationship. The practice of teamwork, a joint contribution to being together, will allow you to trust one another more and create new avenues of shared experience and discussion.

And be as kind to yourselves as you might be to outside help. For example, include your favorite snacks and good music if you\’re doing something like building a new fence, re-doing your flowerbeds, painting the house or cleaning out the garage.

Be kind to one another and make it as fun as possible to get the work done–together!
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